First dates come laden with potential pitfalls. But the trickiest part of all can be the final act, who foots the bill!?
One student (who is thought to be Irish) bucked the “men always pay” trend when he refused to pay for his date's lobster and wine dinner which was SIX TIMES more than his own.
While his decision didn’t cost him in the pocket, it certainly cost him any future rendezvous after leaving the woman irate.
Reddit user “u/CuteBananaMuffin” shared the text message exchange and deluge of abuse he received on the online site after asking her out on a follow-up date.
In the thread shared on BoredPanda, titled “Well... There goes the ‘friendship’ with her”, the man explained that his date's bill had been more than six times his own and felt he was justified in his decision not to pay.
Sharing screenshots of their conversation the woman responded: “After what you did to me last time you expect me to go out with you again? Wow.”
Baffled, he then asked what he had done wrong to which she replied: “You made me pay for my own food and drink while you paid for only yours wtf.”
The man then explained that he felt it would be unfair for him to pay so much more for his meal when he had ordered far less.
He wrote: “So? You invited me lol, you are lucky you didn't pay for my food too, plus I got a carbonara and a beer while you got lobster and €80 wine.” ($92 US).
Would you have paid? Let us know in the comments.
He went on to point out that while his bill came in at just $20 (€17.50) hers alone came in at a staggering $126 (€110), pointing out that he is a student, not a “sugar daddy.”
However, his date failed to see his point adding: “Wow you are so rude!!! I'm never going out with you ever again, if you can't pay for a girl's food then why accepting the invite?”
She then went on the say that “gentleman ALWAYS pay for girl’s food but I guess you are gay” and claimed he only wanted to have sex with her before the conversation turned sour.
Reddit users were largely supportive of the student’s stance, agreeing it was unreasonable for the woman to expect him to foot the entire bill.
One responded: “That's why she invited you out so she could get expensive food and wasn't expecting to pay.”
Agreeing, another wrote: “Anyone that expects that royalty treatment is not someone you want in your life. Good move.”
A third added: “That’s incredibly obnoxious. Going out solely for the free lobster! Gives women a bad name.”
See the full exchange below.
What are your thoughts? Was the man right not to pay or should the man always pay? Tell us in the comments section.