An Irish American working Mom’s 1,050-word rant on society’s expectations of mothers has gone viral.
Mother-of-three Sarah Buckley Friedberg of Needham, Massachusettes, published her post ‘Society to working moms’.
“It was one of those days where everything seemed tough," Friedberg wrote in the post. "I got the kids to bed and was tired, frustrated, pumping and had a verbal dump of everything. I said, 'This is what's going on in my head.'"
Friedberg is a mom to three children aged 6, 3, and 1. She is also a full-time microbiology manager for a major medical device company.
Her husband, Michael, is a pediatrician, and is a “fantastic partner,” Friedberg told Good Morning America. She said she has no complaints, but the goal of her post as to point out the expectations she believes society has on mothers.
"If my husband takes on kid to the grocery store, he gets a parade. I take three kids to the grocery store and don't get [the same treatment]," she said, laughing. "It's just the way society is. He puts the kids to bed, cooks, cleans -- it's sort of the extra stuff that doesn't fall to him."
Society to working moms: -Go back to work 6-8 weeks after having the baby. The baby that you spent 9-10 months growing...Publiée par Sarah Buckley Friedberg sur Jeudi 18 avril 2019
She began her Facebook post by addressing all the challenges of returning to work after childbirth.
"Go back to work before you have finished healing or have had time to bond with your baby. Keep your mind on work, and not your tiny helpless baby that is being watched and cared for by someone other than you."
Friedberg wrote, "Make sure to break the glass ceiling and excel at your job- you can do anything a man can do! It is your job to show society this! Show the world that women can do it all. Rise to the top of your career. -Also breastfeed for at least a year. So take 2-3 pumping breaks a day at work, but don't let it throw you off your game or let you lose your focus."
She also noted the multiple roles and jobs mothers have.
"Recycle. Be Santa Claus, the Easter Bunny, the Tooth Fairy, the birthday planner, the poop doula (seriously when will this end), the finder of lost things, the moderator of fights. Be fun. Be firm. Read books. Have dance parties.”
Based on the comments to her post, Friedberg’s words hit home for a lot of women.
"Not only take a vacation....but WE are the one planning the vacations for the entire family also!" one mother wrote.
"I'm exhausted just reading it," said another.
Not all the comments were friendly, however.
"There's the 'Well, don't have kids then' comments, which is not helpful. It's a little late," Friedberg said. "Then there's the baby boomer generation saying, 'Just stay home.'"
"I think what they're missing is the increased cost of housing, the cost of schooling -- most families cannot survive on one income," she added "That's great if you can make it work, [but] I enjoy working. I enjoy having my career. It's just everything else we are expected to keep in the air."
She said: "I was venting but also being humorous that there's not enough hours to do all these things. We have to prioritize and we do prioritize, but sometimes it gets to you."