Dear MTN, I wrote to you a year ago and told you about a guy I was introduced to that I already know he was a "committed phobe", but that he asked me to move in with him, and since I don't want to get married anyway, I thought it was a good idea. You told me not to do it, it would end in heartache. Well, I hate to say it, but you were right. His name is Rob and he was always very close to his Mother, and even that you said was a red flag. How I wish I would have listened to you. I chose not to listen to you because since my husband died 5 years ago, it wouldn't make sense for me to ever get married again. I thought I was safe from getting hurt since I knew ahead of time that he would never marry me...Well even you will be shocked with this one. HE CHEATED ON ME. That I never expected. When my girlfriend introduced us she said he was the nicest guy in the world. I always trusted him. I am still so shocked and angry about this that I can't eat or sleep. I always told him it was okay that we were just living together and never put pressure on him to get married or anything. But cheating on me, I still can't believe. If you would have bet me a million dollars I would have told you that was one thing I would never have to worry about...thank God we never made that bet. Now what do I do? - you know who. Dear (yes I remember you), He certainly is a committed phobe, and a lot of other things I would like to call him now...but I won't. But I think what happened was that it was the Holidays and you both were living together and he felt pressure from himself and couldn't handle it, so cheated as his "sick" way of getting out of the relationship. No matter how great the relationship was, it doesn't matter to those "phobes". You are so better off without him. Tell your friend to leave the Matchmaking to the professionals, and maybe you should come in for a complimentary appointment at my service. Remember I am the only Matchmaker that deals only with Marriage/Committment minded singles, and I also show Photos, unlike other services...think about it. When you're ready call 1-888-31-MATCH. Good luck to you. It's his loss, remember that! - MTN Please send in your questions to Mtnelson@optonline.net. Maureen Tara Nelson is a Private Matchmaker in Long Island and the entire NY Metro area. Call today 1-888-31-MATCH.