Ryan O'Neal blames himself for his children's problems

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Ryan O'Neal and Tatum O'Neal his daughter

The 71-year-old actor - who is suffering from prostate cancer - admits he has had his own share of difficulties and feels very "guilty" that three of his four kids have ended up in rehab or prison.

Eldest son Griffin, 47, is currently two months into a 16-month sentence for driving under the influence (DUI), while daughter Tatum recently left rehab after suffering a "cocaine relapse".

The pair's half-brother Redmond - whose mother was late actress Farrah Fawcett - is currently seeking court-ordered treatment for heroin addiction.

Ryan said: "Look, I don't give myself a break. I had four children. Only sportscaster Patrick's OK. Griffin's in prison. Redmond, who feels terrible guilt, is in rehab. Tatum, rehab. I had my own problems. Is all this my fault? I guess, yes. When his mother was dying I paid sheriffs $800 overtime to bring Redmond in chains. I keep all her mementoes in a safe to give him someday."

Ryan is preparing to release his autobiography, 'Both of Us: My Life With Farrah', chronicling his time with the 'Charlie's Angels' actress - who died of cancer in June 2009 - and he admits their relationship was not perfect, mainly due to his own insecurities.

He told the New York Post newspaper: "She and I were together on and off 18 years, and I always kept journals. Lots of information. Every night I wrote in a diary.

"Ours was a wonderful but imperfect love. I'm a semi-nice guy, but I was jealous, insecure, everything you don't want in a man. Most times I don't like me. It's all I talk about now."

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luckkelly | Apr 24, 2012, 08:07 PM EDT

Also, Ryan O'Neal, regarding your anger, at times, like myself, regarding my own anger, still, please, when you get the time, look up online, about Aspergers Syndrome, the spectrum of Autism, as I did, not too long ago. I'm most certainly not a doctor diagnosing you, well, I can't because I'm not a doctor at all, and what's more have never even met you face to face, Ryan. I certainly don't know if you have Aspergers Syndrome as I do but from what I've read about your behavior at times, it might, it just could be like mine has been in the past. You never know. It could be Aspergers Syndrome, the spectrum of Autism with some bipolar activity added, too, just like it was with me. Remember, Ryan, what we think is just villianous evil inside us at times, and that we'll never, or can't get away from at all within us, could also be a mental problem inside of us, not just evil. That's certainly what I've found out by discovering about my Aspergers Syndrome within myself. And discovering that, uncovering that, I found out that I could atone much better, and become a much better person, and I did, discovering a much more cleansed, and more pure soul, and a much more cleansed, and more pure heart within myself, Ryan O'Neal. Truly, I really did. Never, ever, ever give up on yourself Ryan. And I also have very true, and very strong faith in you, and our very great lord, God that you won't die, that you'll get better, eventually. Really I do. Very very sincerely, and God bless, Kelly Joanne Cannon, Aspergers Syndrome Person

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luckkelly | Apr 24, 2012, 03:23 AM EDT

Also, Ryan O'Neal if it's any consolation to you at all, self-atonement, and atonement with other people around me, and my having courage within my atonement hasn't been at all easy or smooth for me, either. It still isn't, daily. No way. However, atonement's still truly very much worth the daily effort, though. Take my very true word for that, Ryan. Really, it is. God truly comforts, loves, and guides us through it, and he always will. ---------Very Sincerely, Kelly Joanne Cannon

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luckkelly | Apr 24, 2012, 02:54 AM EDT

May God truly bless you Ryan O'Neal, watch over you, be with you, and your whole family, make you feel alive, inwardly, always, daily, now, always, and forever. God loves you Ryan as he loves us all, and he always will. Please tell your kids what you've said above in this article, face to face.------------Very sincerely from me, with no patronization or cuteness from me at all, none whatsoever, only with true sincerity, Kelly Joanne Cannon

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luckkelly | Apr 24, 2012, 02:31 AM EDT

I'm glad he's at least making one step towards reuniting with his kids. Ryan O'Neal, I don't hate you. I certainly don't want you to die at all, ever, either. No way at all. You're also in three very famous movies which I've always loved since I was a teenager, and own, now. I always and forever will like you in those movies, too, Ryan. God's always with you, Ryan, always never forget that as he's always with us all. What are the rest of us supposed to always say though, whenever you and your family air your family problems publicly? It actually makes us, me, feel really awkward, mainly. Actually, we truly have stuff of our very own to atone for daily, so we're not always thinking about you all, and judging you. I swear we're not doing that. Even so, each person feels differently inside from another person because they really are different, and have had different life experiences. We really can't put ourselves in other people's shoes no matter how hard we try, either. Thus, we really can't judge others. We're not God at all, and we the public are not the ones you've hurt, Ryan. You, and your family should tell each other your problems and true confessions especially when and if you really mean them. Tell them, Ryan, your kids. I'm not trying at all to be mean by writing this just truthful is all. That's it. Very sincerely, Kelly Joanne Cannon

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ERIE65FOREVER! | Apr 23, 2012, 05:56 AM EDT

RYAN ONEAL IS A VERY MESSED UP MAN AND HE HAS WONDERFUL CHILDREN WHO NEED HIS LOVE NOT HIS ABUSE!! HE IS OLD ENOUGH NOW TO ADMIT TO ALL HIS FAULTS AND MAKE AMENDS WITH HIS LOVED ONES, BEFORE ITS TOO LATE.

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