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Rory Staunton, a beautiful boy, leaves this earth. The hardest column I will ever have to write

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This is the toughest column I will ever write and the one I least expected to.

On Sunday night in a New York hospital my beautiful 12-year-old nephew Rory Staunton passed from this earth.

Rory wasn’t just my nephew, he was the son I never had, the precious possession of my sister Orlaith and her husband Ciaran Staunton along with their daughter Kathleen.

Orlaith was the one that followed me to America. I introduced her and Ciaran on an Irish weekend in the Catskills back in the 1990s. Soon they were pledged to each other and they have had a wonderful marriage and family.

From earliest times, Rory was a laughing little boy, an impish toddler always ready for fun, especially when his sister Kathleen and her sidekick,my daughter Alana, were involved.

In later years, he was also strangely mature for his age, taking part in adult conversations while other kids played childhood games.

I tried to steal Rory away often; a Notre Dame game, a weekend at our house, whenever the opportunity presented itself. I revelled in this big laughing Irishman, with the "Simpsons" and "Family Guy" obsession, the absurd sense of humor and the serious political side of him who studied American politics with the intensity of a professional.

JFK was his hero he told me, because of his idealism. Rory too wanted to make a difference, to help the less well off. For one so young he already had a highly developed social conscience.

He had already been to the White House and had met President Obama and Michelle on St.Patrick’s Day in 2011. Not surprisingly, given his parents and their keen interest in all things political, Rory was fast becoming a political expert.

Rory charmed the pants off whoever met him. The girls were already showing interest, but Rory was a busy guy. He had taken flying lessons at 11, leaving his parents with their hearts in their mouths as he flew fearlessly into the wild blue yonder with his instructor.

Ireland was his spiritual home. On vacations back in his Dad’s Mayo or his Mom’s Kerry and Louth he fell in with the locals and a gaggle of cousins, discussed Mayo’s continued Gaelic Football failures with the best of them and came back to New York as attuned to Ireland and its rhythms as any local.

He was about to spread his wings, and Georgetown University and its politics degree were on his radar. Rory was opening up, emerging from a chrysalis, ready for the beckoning world, to take flight.

Then on Sunday we lost him. Four days earlier he had received an elbow scrape after falling while playing basketball, which had somehow allowed a toxic bacteria into his system. Two days later he was hospitalized, fighting for his life, a battle he ultimately lost.

There is an air of unreality even as I write this. My beautiful red-headed, five-foot nine-inch tall nephew has departed, leaving an utterly broken family and circle of friends that stretches from New York to Ireland to many other points behind.

It was the worst weekend of my life as I watched the beloved boy battle vainly against the host of toxins that were attacking him.

Despite the best efforts of outstanding doctors and nurses in the Intensive Care Unit , the darling boy did not survive.

He is gone now into the wild blue yonder where he used to travel as a pilot in the making.

Soar high Rory, and keep watch on us down below. We love you and miss you so much. Some day with a blue sky above and a fair wind behind, and our hearts full, our dreams will come true and we will meet our beautiful boy again.

Until then, slan go foill a chuisle mo chroi.





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Very, very sorry to hear about such a tragic, untimely death. There are times when words are just not enough. John Kelly (former Irish Echo)
So heartbreaking...there is no loss like that of losing a child. My sympathy and prayers to Rory's parents, and sister as well as to all his family. As a former nurse at NYU Medical Center...I know that the medical staff and nurses share my sadness and sorrow in not being able to save Rory.
Reading, listening, and thinking of my beautiful cousin Shirine who also died much too young, with tears rolling down my face.
All my Empathy & Sympathy.
My son Brett and I got to spend the evening at the White House St. Patrick's Day with Rory, Ciaron, and Naill. What a wonderful child! His life is a testimonial to all that is good about love of children and family!
My heart is breaking for you all. I am crying reading this. Deep deep sympathies. May God Bless and may he rest in peace. Amen.
I have an 8 y/o son and I can't even imagine what the family is trying to cope with. As a Physician I am seeing more of these very virulent strains of bacteria. What we would at one time term a local cellulitis, is now the early stage of a necrotizing fasciitis until proven otherwise. I hope some how a legacy of his may be to heighten awareness of the need for very aggressive early management of all injuries and infections, which itself is still no guarantee of success. He sounds like an outstanding young man and quite accomplished for his years. Like drop of water in a pond, it causes a ripple to radiate in directions unknown as is becomes inseparable from the pond and perpetually reverberates, though to us we no longer see the drop. God's plan for us all is a mystery but what we can say he is a loving and mysterious God. There was a time when we were all not here on earth in the flesh and in the future we will all leave this earth. When it is a child we all hurt because we have had a chance to grow old and it is not fair. But it is not a universe designed to our wishes. I pray that the Holy Spirit will fill all touched by Rory and raise a brilliant radiant and warm light in all of our consciousnesses connecting with Rory to help him and all still on earth be calmed that all is as it should be for the flicker of time until all the saints will be reunited and return in glory with Jesus Christ. God bless you Rory and all the wonderful friends and family you were fortunate to have grown up with and with whom you shall assuredly be with again as this IS his promise.
Dear Niall, Heart-wrenching! Derry O'Sullivan
"This story should remind all of us about the fragility of life and how so much of what we typically fret over is so insignificant compared to the loss of a loved one." You got that right, Rebelforce!
I am so sorry for your loss. I am remembering you, Rory's family and friends, and especilaly Rory in my prayers. When you meet in heaven, as the song says, I think he will know each of your names.
So sorry to hear this. What a random and awful way to die. Deepest condolences to you and all the family.
Dear Niall - We are so sorry we didn't get to see this yesterday and know how devastated Rory's family, including yourself, must feel. What a beautiful young child and what a great loss. Maybe you can be comforted to some degree that Rory never experienced a day without family and love and has now passed onto eternal love. God Bless all of you.
Hearts are achin, hearts are breakin Your beautiful boy, his last breath taken Surely God must have been mistaken Rory's life, just merely in the makin.... Please believe, you have not been forsaken.. A child shootin hoops, now a shootin star, forever shines, and therefore awakens.... Continued strength and understanding to Rory's family, friends and all those afflicted by such unexplainable loss. Ms.Flanagan
Errrm, your the boss, you didn't have to write it, you choose to to serve your own interests. Sorry for your loss.
So very sorry for your loss. May you find comfort in knowing that Rory is an angel and looking over all of you biddy - Drogheda
So sorry for your loss,,may God Bless and watch over your family.




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