The Irish Homecoming - A letter to darling Sadie: the second child can be taken for granted by stressed out parents


You smile at everyone and everything. You never make strange with anyone. They tell me at day care that all the staff visit your baby room at least once in the day for a “Sadie cuddle.” 

You love giving cuddles, especially to your daddy.   You’ve recently begun teething and find relief in sucking our faces. It’s very funny and sloppy. 

You adore your brother more than anyone else. We don’t get a look in. He spends hours every day trying to make you laugh and it works a treat. You take great comfort in knowing he is nearby and sometimes when he is out of sight you make a fussy sound until he returns. 

He in turn takes great care of you. He cleans your face when you spit up, he gives you a bottle when you’re hungry and tucks you up in a blanket when he thinks you might need it. 

He also, on occasion, does things that you’re not yet ready for like shoving a piece of apple into your mouth because he thinks you’re hungry, or lifting you off the couch to carry you around in his arms (we rescued you a few times from this.) 

You have a beautiful, flourishing personality Sadie. You’re cool, calm, and collective. You’re always content and smiling. It’s a pleasure for anyone to be around you especially me. 

You mean the world and more to me Sadie Elizabeth Mooney.  I just know that we will be great friends. 

It’s nice that Colum has your daddy too. I’m sure there will be many boys vs. girls arguments but we’ll always win, Sadie. We’ll make a good team. 

It’s my job to be a role model to you now little girl. I’ll do my best. I’ve no doubt when your teenage years roll in we’ll have a few (or a lot) of words but that too will pass. 

I know this because I was once a teenager and disliked a lot of the choices my mother made on my behalf – like keeping me home from discos when my friends were going, or stopping me from hanging around with some kids in the neighborhood or not allowing me to wear platform shoes to school when I was 14 after I saw them on a contestant at the Eurovision Song Contest that year.

She repeatedly said to me, “Someday you’ll understand why I’m so strict. You’ll be a mother too April.” I never believed her but she was right. 

I recently thanked my mother, your nana Liz, for being so strict, and apologized for all the angry tears I shed when I was told no. So be forewarned Sadie -- I’ve a feeling I’ll be worse than your nana. It’s my job my sweetheart. 

I get very excited at the idea of taking you shopping, sipping cups of tea, listening to all your little woes and learning about the boys you have crushes on. At the moment I need to remember to enjoy you every day because God knows the time goes so fast. 

You’re seven months already little girl so I’m not going to let another day go by without making extra time in my day for you. 

Thank you for being in our lives Sadie. You’re a true blessing and I love you very much.