The pair spent a number of hours shortly after the call talking about everything. Corkery completely opened up to this stranger about his battles and there in O’Donovan’s house this rugby player began to turn a corner. A light shone inside him that was quenched many years ago. Corkery admits it wasn’t an overnight quick fix. It took time, and a lot of work on himself to change his way of thinking but he now feels confident he is on the right path in life and can finally see a bright future full of excitement and plans.
“Everything is positive now. I mean it truly does work if you think positive. Even simple things from getting up in the morning with something positive on my mind starts my day off great,” he admits.
When asked did his family pick up on his low self-esteem and dark moods he said families aren’t always the best people to confide in. “It might be best sometimes to avoid people who are closest and nearest. They often have the attitude to just “Cop on to yourself. Get up out of bed and get on with it.”
Corkery, who sells sports medical equipment, admits he still has a dark day or two but “as long as I know how to cope with it” he can manage a very happy and content life for himself.
Corkery can’t emphasise enough how important it is to reach out to someone whom you think may be suffering from depression. He said they may not open up the first time but with a little time and possibly perseverance making that contact and having that conversation can pull a person out of a very dark hole.
“Getting the message across, that there are people out there who can help, it might be just what someone needs. I was lucky… the phone call was made for me to me.”
Corkery, based on his own personal experience, claims someone with depression can come out of it in a short space of time. He did.
“You will be able to change. It might be so hard right now but you will be able to turn things around. It’s just a case of being able to know what do to and how to deal with the situation and challenge it.
“Expecting yourself to run a mile in five minutes, six minutes, that's a challenge, the first time you might not do it, and after a month you might not do it, but eventually you will do it and the reward at the end of the line will change your whole life.
For more information on the mental health awareness event at the Aisling Centre on April 25 call 914-237-5121 or visit www.aislingcenter.org.