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Californian Grandfather asks how his son-in-law could take three-year-old daughter’s life

Clarissa McCarthy’s granddad: 'I don't understand it at all – I still can't believe it'


The Mc Carthy family home in Foilnamuck, West Cork. Inset, 3-year-old Clarissa McCarthy
The Mc Carthy family home in Foilnamuck, West Cork. Inset, 3-year-old Clarissa McCarthy
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The heartbroken grandfather of tragic toddler Clarissa McCarthy has asked ‘how could anybody hurt a little girl like that?’

Three-year-old Clarissa was drowned by her father Martin McCarthy who then took his own life in the sea near their West Cork home.

Martin took the drastic action after his wife Rebecca had told him she was leaving him and moving back to America with their daughter.

Now her Californian family have spoken to the Evening Herald newspaper of their heartache at the loss of their grandchild.

Rebecca’s father Harry Cejnar told the paper: “Nobody in their right mind would do that to their own daughter.”

Still resident in Southern California where Rebecca, now 25, grew up, Harry confirmed to the paper that his daughter met McCarthy, a west Cork farmer, on a school exchange trip when she was just 16.

McCarthy was 41-years-old at the time and they married three years later.

Police believe McCarthy killed his daughter in reaction to the news that she was to move to America and away from him.

As Rebecca’s mother and sister fly to Ireland, her father told the paper that the family cannot understand how the deaths occurred.

He added: “Rebecca couldn’t have brought Clarissa back to the United States because Clarissa didn’t have a passport.

“The laws in Ireland would mean Martin would have to say that was OK,” Mr Cejnar said in a newspaper interview.

“I don’t understand it at all - I still can’t believe it. Rebecca and Martin were good parents. I hadn’t heard of any problems between them at all.

“I just don’t understand how this could have happened. Something must have gone wrong. Clarissa was a great kid.”

Rebecca had brought her daughter to see her family in the US last year.

Her grandfather added: “How could anybody hurt a little girl like that?

“Nobody in their right mind would do that to their own daughter. I never met Martin but Rebecca and Clarissa came here last November.

“Rebecca seemed happy. She told me she was. She came back over to take some decorating classes for her bakery and then she went back.”

Cejnar also told the paper that his daughter and her future husband had an online relationship after she first met him.

He said: “She came home and told me that she was going to get married to Martin. She said she was going to wait until she was 18.”

Rebecca’s sister Jessica said their family are shaken up following the deaths which they learnt through a ‘horrible’ phone call on Tuesday night.

She said: “Our mam Linda and aunt will head over to West Cork now to be with her.

“I don’t really know what happened. I am very close with my sister and have visited west Cork a few times. I don’t know much about Martin. I know he was older.


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If the father in law needs answers, he needs to asked his daughter. Amidst all the grief of this incident, she's complicit.
Nice photo of the cute little girl, now put down like an animal. No thanks to her father, but I think she is now talking to God in person. God rest her soul and God forgive the sins of the father here.
Women should wise-up and NEVER make such an announcement that may stir up an unstable individual. The best course of action is to LEAVE secretly and avoid a tragedy like this. A parting note is all that is necessary, and that can be mailed to give the departing people time to reach safety before the note is delivered. If the man really loved his daughter, he would not have harmed her and/or himself. Since he was obviously unstable and selfish, the mother was correct in wanting to leave with the child. It is too bad her honesty and candor led to a tragedy.
Sounds like Rebecca was an enterprising young woman developing a bakery business and possibly contributing to the family income. One senses Martin McCarthy was unable to verbalize, negotiate or turn to others for professional help. The drowning of the child is clearly murder and a resentful act of a despondent man. Rebecca will be grieving for a very long time with such a loss. The survivors of these horrors are the victims.
its a common thing,its a revenge on the wife partner who leaves,can you make the excuse they are unhinged by grief,fancy lawyers will,come up with all sorts of sycho babble excuses,i wouldnt,its a totally evil jealous vengefull act for which there is NO excuse.
Children used to be able to travel on parents passports up to the age of 21 (then 18) until some years ago, when EU regulations demanded seperate passsports for all regardless of age. This man inherited the family farm, basically parented his own aging parents and lost his own life chances in the process. Therefore, the loss of his one chance of happinness was probably too much. The proverbial straw that broke the camel's back. Sadly, people often have children to fill existential voids in their own lives, a non ideal motivation. But is there an ideal one? May they both rest in peace!
Children used to be able to travel on parents passports up to the age of 21 (then 18) until some years ago, when EU regulations demanded seperate passsports for all regardless of age. This man inherited the family farm, basically parented his own aging parents and lost his own life chances in the process. Therefore, the loss of his one chance of happinness was probably too much. The proverbial straw that broke the camel's back. Sadly, people often have children to fill existential voids in their own lives, a non ideal motivation. But is there an ideal one? May they both rest in peace!
The previous article mentioned depression as a possible motive. True clinical depression leaves the patient in total despair of ever returning to earlier happy times and at 50, this man was the perfect age for the hormonal changes that we call "midlife crisis" in males. Our societies both ignore and stigmatize mental health to our continued sorrow!
Even though the grandfather claims Rebbeca could not bring the daughter to the US as she, baby, did not have a passport, he went on to say that Mom and granddaughter came to Calif last November. How she get in? via Mexico with all the others. My heart feels for him, but that is no excuse to day a small childs life. Do yourself in lad and say good bye alone. SAD
If it made sense it would not be considered abnormal behavior.
 




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