Massachusetts Catholic mother inundated with gays - Stacy Trasancos' missive on gay families
By: Cahir O'Doherty | Published Tuesday, November 1, 2011, 7:13 PM | Updated Tuesday, November 1, 2011, 7:13 PM
A Massachusetts stay-at-home mother of seven wrote a very plaintive missive on the internet this week.
In a blog post on her website she outlined how the disgusting spectacle of gay families enjoying a nice day out a local public pool has left her
terrified to the point she is now afraid to leave her own home.
'I find myself unable to even leave the house anymore without worrying about what in tarnation we are going to encounter,' wrote Stacy Trasancos. 'We are responsible citizens. We live by the rules, we pay our taxes, we take care of our things. I'm supposed to be able to influence what goes on in my community, and as a voter I do exercise that right. But I'm outnumbered. I can't even go to normal places without having to sit silently and tolerate immorality. We all know what would happen if I asked two men or two women to stop displaying, right in front of me and my children, that they live in sodomy.'
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Since she's a mother of seven small children she admits she doesn't get out much, other than to Mass and the public pool. But now, thanks to those immoral sodomites, even that's been spoiled.
And what were they up to, these infernal sodomites? Why, two men who had brought their kids to the park were 'effeminately rubbing elbows' she gasps. Another gay couple had hugged in a way that was 'clearly not friendly.'
How too, too terribly terribly utterly utterly utter.
Reading this, at first I thought it must be satire. I mean who on earth still says tarnation, for example? And, if gay people make you feel - that - uncomfortable, why would you live in the state of Massachusetts at all (one of the most avowedly progressive in the nation)?
The level of her hostility and terror raised alarm bells. It seems so over the top. In my own life, after all, I've witnessed all manner of heterosexual displays involving physical affection (and a good deal more, frankly) since I was a boy. I've emerged pretty much unscathed. So why can't Stacy Trasancos?
Understandably, her rant has gone viral now. And in the main people have remained respectful, whilst informing her she's a massive heel and trying to illustrate to her how close her fundamentalism is to that of the Taliban's.
Some nutters have even posted some truly hateful, threatening words (but they're a small minority of the respondents she has received and she has, she says, recorded their IP's). It's unlikely, given the tone of the debate, that either side will cede an inch.
But the point, for me, is that this unusual lady finds gay people actively unpleasant simply for being gay. That's before she even speaks to or comes to know them. Their very existence offends her, in fact.
That's an unsettling level of bigotry. She'd prefer they didn't exist rather than give her offense. Her final solution is to stay home and lock the door.
As for Massachusetts, in the past it took plenty of stick for abolishing slavery and for integrating its schools and for permitting gay marriage - but it also led the way, and the country followed. I think it'll survive her displeasure.
Stacy Trasancos can lock her doors and raise her children to dislike and judge gay people, but she can't legislate them out of existence because their existence offends her faith.
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Switch to the desktop site to post a comment.eiriamach | Sep 18, 2011, 12:03 AM EDT
Helmet365, I apologize for mis-spelling your name-- twice. I've been reading too much about German bishops lately....
eiriamach | Sep 17, 2011, 11:51 PM EDT
Jethrobodine, you will find accurate statistics at the dot-gov sites, like the bureau of crime statistics. Your stats are wildly off the mark. But that happens when you get your "info" from the white supremacists. While you're looking up rape statistics by race of victim and rapist, be sure to note also that 99% of all rapes are committed by men, and 90% of rape victims are women. Shall we blame federal legislation for that huge statistical imbalance? An African-American is twice as likely to be the victim of a violent crime than a white person, and in case you haven't noticed, the entire nation has been royally screwed by white white-collar criminals who brought down the economy from their cozy enclaves on Wall St., not Washington DC.
Pyroteknik | Sep 17, 2011, 11:07 PM EDT
Seriously, her opinions are not unlike white racists that thought the world was falling apart because black people were eventually allowed various freedoms. Lock your doors and shut out the real world if you must, but it is you and your children that will suffer in the end. Love is love, and more understanding, not less, is what we require in this world.
Colliegirl | Sep 17, 2011, 04:05 PM EDT
Why is this article, which has nothing to do with Ireland or Irish Americans, on this website? Oh wait, I understand, the woman is Catholic and "homophobic", two things that will attract the ire of the writer. And she had the gall to express an opinion that a public display of affection by gays makes her uncomfortable and is confusing to her children. She thinks that sexual activity outside of marriage between a man and a woman is sinful. That's a pretty basic Christian teaching about a man and woman forsaking all others and cleaving only to each other. But hey, how dare she expect Americans to accept Christian values or practice common courtesy in public places? At least she should keep her unwanted Catholic opinions to herself and remember that freedom of speech only applies to those who agree with the writer of this article.
eiriamach | Sep 15, 2011, 09:07 PM EDT
JamieLM, I'm guessing you're a psychologist or have lived in an area with sexual exhibitionists as I did for some years. I once chatted with a police officer about the couple who liked to do it in the beautiful swimming pool at my apartment complex. He told me to call the police next time and they'd try to get there before the couple had finished because if the police did not witness the act, they could do nothing about the 'public indecency.' I never did call because I couldn't figure out what to tell them: "Get here fast! They're doing it in the pool again"? That sounds prurient to me. It's a difficult situation, no easy solutions, though I found out that a flashlight shining in their faces will break up a noisy late-night jacuzzi orgy.
eiriamach | Sep 15, 2011, 08:41 PM EDT
Oldwildrover, writing equality into law is not "catering to" a minority. We are changing laws (removing discrimination) for a small percentage of the population because we've learned the hard way the lessons of 'majority rule.' For example, the majority in southern states wanted slavery and protected it by law, then segregation and 'Jim Crow,' anti-'miscegenation,' exclusion of women from the professions and juries, prohibition, Japanese internment, and much more. Such unequal treatment was imposed by the will of the majority on an unwilling minority, and problems (like the organized crime that came with prohibition), protests, sometimes war followed until we changed such laws to guarantee the rights of the minorities. (Women were a minority with regard to power before we had the right to vote.) Federal guarantees of equal treatment under the law cannot be over-ridden by 'states rights.' We just don't go there any longer. Sometimes it's called 'the tyranny of the majority.' That's why. @helmut365, no prob, com boxes sometimes look like chaos, and truth to tell, I used a few harsh words.
helmet365 | Sep 15, 2011, 06:35 PM EDT
erinmach, opology, my post was meant for mimimcd.
eiriamach | Sep 15, 2011, 05:03 PM EDT
Helmut, what "outburst" do you have in mind? Are you sure you're looking at my posts? If my words are an "outburst," there's some far-out flip outs going on elsewhere below.
helmet365 | Sep 15, 2011, 02:47 AM EDT
eiriamach, Your outburst shows how threatened you are after reading a post,one thing you do not have is peace of mind. Consider this,if horses had a God it would be a horse. That is why humans with their limited intelligence think God is a man.Do you understand now, God has not manifested himself or herself to anyone on earth.Its a man made thing. Think about it, And believe it and you will find peace of mind.P.S. good news,there is no judgement or hell. Hope this helps.
mimimcd | Sep 14, 2011, 10:51 PM EDT
Once again Irish(?) Central you've proven yourselves to be a totally biased liberal, anti-catholic, anti-truth so-called paper. Freedom of expression - as long as we express the views you approve of. Have the smsm to email me with what your decision was based on, but i won't hold my breath. Is there any recourse to be taken against such communistic tactics....i'll be in contact, in a legal way/forum using your tactics against you. thanks for the challenge
JethroBodine | Sep 14, 2011, 09:00 PM EDT
Revulsion is the natural reaction of the sexually normal to displays of homosexuality; your libtard boilerplate response can never change that. Personally, I despise all forms of blatant public affection: it's nothing more than showing off. If you just can't keep your hands & your lips off each other, get a room - or a closet.
mimimcd | Sep 14, 2011, 08:05 PM EDT
hey cahir, why did you and your team knock my e-mail out - again? Afraid of people finally getting the facts about the corruption in The Church and how it is deliberately taken billions of souls to hell...laughing all the while? it's become so very obvious that you're part of the infiltration of The Church and Ireland. You've allowed people on this site to call for the death of traditional minded catholics and their church without blinking an eye, enjoying every minute of it, but not factual info? Many thanks to proving how terminally cancerous one of the many 'unbiased' entities really is. eiri, holla, etc. i'll keep trying to respond...but i don't expect i'll be allowed. FOR THOSE WHO BELIEVE, NO EXPLANATION IS NECESSARY.. FOR THOSE WHO DON'T, NO EXPLANATION IS POSSIBLE!
krissangel | Sep 14, 2011, 01:38 PM EDT
Yikes! I'm shocked at the vitriol herein...from both the woman in MA and the responders. jesus taught us to love one another, love our neighbors as ourselves, and to love our enemies. I don't think he'd be swayed by either side's hatred - he'd be disappointed. Tolerance, love, acceptance, everyone.
eiriamach | Sep 14, 2011, 01:07 PM EDT
About 30 years ago, a minister told me about a long conversation he had with his son in a park. The two men were sitting on a bench. At one point, when the father spontaneously reached over and hugged his son, they had to endure bigoted comments yelled at them by passersby who assumed the two men were gay. Now the course of history has changed, and men-- heterosexual or homosexual-- as well as women--heterosexual or homosexual-- can follow a spontaneous impulse to rub elbows or hug in public. Fine! There's much less suffering for all now. But mimimcd thinks that having to endure the sight of two men showing affection for each in public is tantamount to being fed to the lions in the Roman Coliseum, being martyred for Christian beliefs. Wow! And mimimcd thinks "the good suffering at the hands of evil being the one, best thing that overcomes the evil itself." Yes, that minister worked for equality for LGBTs and helped overcome the evil of homophobia, while mimimcd's Church still fights against human rights. I do not think that minister "will live eternally with the flames of hate enveloping" him. Where there was hatred, he sowed love; where there was darkness, he brought light. Too bad he could not have known mimimcd. He might have saved mimimcd from the Christian-devouring lions of today that populate the imaginations of haters who think they're martyrs.
conorsmom | Sep 14, 2011, 01:05 PM EDT
Holy ____! mimimcd are you a little angry! If you can place you anger/hatred aside long enough to think back to the fact that what He taught us, you will realize that He wants us to love one another..... You might want to go to Church and not listen to the priests but READ what Jesus was actually saying! Please, have a peace filled day... Oh, and more importantly get help!!!
jamieLM | Sep 14, 2011, 12:28 PM EDT
@creed08 - well said. There was a time when people thought black people shouldn't swim in the same pool as whites because they'd "pollute" the pool. The reality is that there are many kinds of families in the U.S. Get used to it. Btw: Maybe Stacy should move to Iran because the Pres. of Iran said on "60 Minutes" that there were NO gay people in Iran - none.
creed08 | Sep 14, 2011, 12:00 PM EDT
I truly feel sorry for her children. OOOH a gay family at the pool, guess they won't be going there anymore. IT WAS A FAMILY! Who cares if there are 2 mommies or 2 daddies? This woman should stay in the house, because she only adds more polution to anywhere she goes anyway. The reality is that there are many kinds of families, and none is more valid than the other. Kids need stable loving homes, and the straight community has not done a very good job of making sure our children are protected, so who should we complain to about that? As long as children are in a loving, caring home, they truly could care less who their parents are.
hollabackgurl | Sep 14, 2011, 12:00 PM EDT
It's hilarious when Christian's call other's 'evil pukes' isn't it? Irony much? Jesus wouldn't have had a minute for a whited sepulchre like you Minimcd.
jamieLM | Sep 14, 2011, 11:13 AM EDT
@eiriamach, maybe it's because we're culturally acclimated to reading about and seeing intimacy and sex between men and women (film, TV, books) as opposed to having little or no lifetime exposure to gay sex which we've been taught by the church is immoral. Gays and straights are equally guilty of prurient interests - gay and straight porn lookers, for example. Maybe it's the "rush" people get at looking at something that's supposed to be private and forbidden to see, I don't know. I equate it with the ambulance and fire engine chasers. There's a car accident or fire, and a crowd gathers. People are attracted and repulsed at the same time. I find overt public displays of intimacy by gays or straights to be distasteful, disgusting depending on what's going on, and unnecessary. Go home or get a room! Everyone has a different level of tolerance when it comes to public intimacy. I don't want to see gays or straights making out and fondling each other in public places - period. As a straight woman, I have no interest in watching any kind of intimacy between gay couples. I avoid films and TV that show it. I don't watch heterosexual porn, either. It's my perogative not to watch what makes me uncomfortable. I never tell others what they should or should not watch. Whatever floats your boat.
mimimcd | Sep 14, 2011, 10:33 AM EDT
hey helmut 365....and all of the rest of you evil puke, your kind already killed off the Founded of His Catholic Church, but it hasn't stopped it from flourishing....why do you suppose that is? will you ever understand the concept of the good suffering at the hands of evil being the one, best thing that overcomes the evil itself? NA, your self-indulgent mental illness could never get it, unless you sought out His Grace to rid you of the evil mindset your 'prince of darkness' has enveloped you with. Of course we all know that the majority won't do that. You may think that you're winning the war, and can kill all of us, but our blood lives on in eternal life...joyous, whereas yours (if you don't get it real soon) will live eternally with the flames of hate enveloping you - as your 'prince' laughs at your eternal folly. the living blood of the martyrs can actually be seen in the Colliseum in its liquid form to this day... explain that one and the other million miracles to show that Christ and His Church survive eternally. It's just a matter of who you choose to serve...the one who's all about serving self or the one Who's all about serving others - including you poor ignorant soul - in humility for the greater good. It wont be long now before the Truth you refuse to face puts you straight to where you deserve to be. And that folly will be yours to deal with forever. The misery you live with each day that has caused you such turmoil, mental illness and hatred is so very obvious to all, but those of your ilk....or am i wrong.....perhaps your evil outcries are the end result of your perfect realization of just how sick you are. we'll meet in the end and compare notes as to where He's decided we each end up and why... sure hope you get the Light you need soon....your time is so very short.....thank God. Thanks to all of you who have the guts and grace to speak up!
eiriamach | Sep 14, 2011, 10:08 AM EDT
Reading through the comments, I can't help but notice that mention of public displays of affection between gays brings out the prurient interests of some heterosexuals, especially those who speak for God or call themselves Catholic. And heterosexual displays do not?! Almost all of the over-the-line sexual behaviors I've had the misfortune to witness have been heterosexual: one guy and three gals butt-naked in a jacuzzi at three in the morning, all over each other in a bubbly pile of bodies, very loud giggly all of 'em (their noise woke me up); intercourse in a public swimming pool surrounded by apartments with people out on terraces watching (some voyeurs snapping photos!), hetero teens, arms and legs wrapped around each other, hands inside each other's clothing.... Well, you all know those scenes that can be very in-your-face in public places like swimming pools, beaches, parks, and shopping malls. Why are people objecting only to gay displays in public? There are far more hetero foreplay scenes in public places where one would expect children to be watching. For people voicing their distaste of gay affection in public, this is a Freudian question, so think before you answer-- why is it that you don't notice or complain about the hetero displays, only the homo displays?
HorsesInMdstrm | Sep 14, 2011, 09:21 AM EDT
@JKavanagh - perhaps you would be more comfortable in Iran where they have police to enforce such rules. But don't puke - there might be puke police there too. Oh, sorry, I think that's Singapore.
JKavanagh | Sep 14, 2011, 08:36 AM EDT
Seeing gays showing love for one another is nothing but a puke fest. It shouldn't be allowed in public, anywhere!
helmet365 | Sep 14, 2011, 01:34 AM EDT
The post below should read ,The Catholic Church must change or die.
helmet365 | Sep 14, 2011, 01:32 AM EDT
Poor Stacey is suffering mentally with her 2000 year old beliefs,she is a victim but cannot do anything about it as well a having a large family to look after.Follow the sheep and you will become enslaved.The Catholic must change or die,the process has well and truly started.
AengusOg | Sep 13, 2011, 10:11 PM EDT
These folks didn't choose to be gay.
billie061 | Sep 13, 2011, 07:29 PM EDT
STACEY HAVE YOU AS MUCH DISGUST FOR THOSE CATHOLIC CLERGY WHO ABUSED CHILDREN ?
pilib04 | Sep 13, 2011, 07:03 PM EDT
I think it's a good idea that she stays in her home and leaves the rest of us alone. She sounds like a real kook.
hollabackgurl | Sep 13, 2011, 06:04 PM EDT
I'm sure you'd prefer to send African Americans back to the cotton fields too, Pittsburghkid, but fortunately you're 100 years old or near to it.
Pittsburghkid | Sep 13, 2011, 05:58 PM EDT
Another homosexual lesson from Cahir. I completely understand the predictament of the mother. I'm beginning to understand that taking homosexual of the list of mental disorders was a mistake. Ron Paul has talked about repealing the Civil Rights Laws. I beginning to see Ron Paul is right.
hollabackgurl | Sep 13, 2011, 05:48 PM EDT
Tra-la-la, Katie's uncomfortable. Oh noes! Why can't you people conform and be the sort of people she understands. Boys say blee and girls say blah. You are being of the men and they are being of the women. Gays, stop shoving things down Katie's throat she needs to rest a bit.
pounder | Sep 13, 2011, 05:13 PM EDT
I'm with you Stacy,this infatuation with homosexuals,especially on this blog,seems to hint at the sexual orientation of its author.God is wtching.
hollabackgurl | Sep 13, 2011, 04:57 PM EDT
Gay people become gay because they have ALL been molested; heterosexuals become straight by listening to Phil Collins and the Dirty Dancing soundtrack. Must we sit idly by when we know the truth: the life of a heterosexual is a deadly dull and sick one. God's word says we must give a mighty wedgie to the boring and the stupid, for verily His chruch despises a tool.
mimimcd | Sep 13, 2011, 04:15 PM EDT
how wonderful it is to see a moral person have the guts to speak up about these degenerates! 90% of whom were sexually molested and use this as a way to deal with the truth of the horrors they endured. however, why must we few; who know better that this lifestyle is horrific, be subjected to ridicule and worse for speaking the truth? most idely sit by and let, what our Creator calls an abomination, continue to send us all to hell for our complacency in matters such as this and abortion. History alone shows us that this has been the cause of the decline of civilizations, but we continue to be spineless or completely void of honoring Gods' Words and Directives because we refuse to deal with Truth. I'm ashamed to say that I live in the USA...a country founded on 'religious freedom', as if there is such a thing. Throwing off Gods' Church by all - whether in this country or all others around the world, has shown us just how depraved we become without Him. His Church has been corrupted from within by His enemies, particulary obvious since the 1960's...when the sex abuse really took off, and the world has been in its' greatest spiraling termoil since His Real Presence has been almost virtually extinguished. Despite His Mercy and Warnings, we continue to march to hell with a vengence, as we "will not serve". those of us who try to serve and offer up our anguishes in union with the Sacred Hearts for the salvation of these poor souls will continue to do so, with Gods' Grace and look forward to the day of His return to set the record straight as to what Truth really is. In the meantime, isn't it always the way that the innocent have to suffer because of the ignorance of a few....well, in this case...the majority of the worlds population. Gods' Grace to all of you who fight the good fight...may He sustain you in His Peace and Joy....forever. JMJ
LainieMcEl | Sep 13, 2011, 03:21 PM EDT
I think it sounds like seven kids may suck too much oxygen out of the house and cause brain damage to the maternal figure! I don't hear concern re pedophiles hanging around the pool, and I would be willing to bet they outnumber the gays and lesbians. And no, they aren't the same.
errigal | Sep 13, 2011, 03:04 PM EDT
This lovely lady who has seven kid's need's to step outside of the box and view the planet. TARNATION IT GAVE HER AWAY.
falconflash | Sep 13, 2011, 02:01 PM EDT
SUKMalcom......... I'm sure the Vatican is a nice place to live but too many foreigners for me.
failteroibeard | Sep 13, 2011, 01:58 PM EDT
What's this got to do with Ireland or the Irish?? Has Irish Central become Enquirer Central??
hollabackgurl | Sep 13, 2011, 01:31 PM EDT
This story blows my mind. I mean you know they're put there but it's still somehow a revelation.
SCVMal | Sep 13, 2011, 12:40 PM EDT
Maybe falconflash and Ms. Transacos can BOTH move to Vatican City to be protected from gays. They obviously prefer pedophiles to the simple expressions of love.
conorsmom | Sep 13, 2011, 12:08 PM EDT
OH GROW UP!! This woman lives in a very narrow minded bubble. I certainly hope for her sake that all of her SEVEN children are what she would call "Normal" and are as closed minded as she. If not will she rant on the internet about them? If rubbing elbows is now immoral, I think she needs to look no further than the supermarket tabloids to really be set off her kilter.... Why can't we just live and let live?
falconflash | Sep 13, 2011, 11:33 AM EDT
Well, she is correct in her thoughts but her actions should involve moving to a town where the majority of people are heterosexual Catholics. Such towns are available, and even those have problems, we are all sinners afterall, but to live in a town where these homos flaunt their immorality is hard to take. In sum, stop bellyaching and take action.
joan1954 | Sep 13, 2011, 11:23 AM EDT
I do not have any problems with the alternative lifestyle community showing affection in public but some tend to overdo it afterall that is their right. But I do think that needs to be toned down a bit and that goes for the straight community as well.
SingleDonald | Sep 13, 2011, 10:28 AM EDT
This is a tough call! Homosexuals and lesbians deserve the same Civil & Constitutional Rights as the rest of us. Yet, let's face it, most heterosexuals find their behavior to be morally repulsive. I have previously posted here how gays should refrain from acts of affection, unless they are in a private setting, or a gay venue. Similarly, I said that straight couples, if invited into a gay venue, should refrain from acts of affection, while there. People of either orientation should respect the sensitivities of the other, and try not to make them feel uncomfortable.
IAPRINCESS | Sep 13, 2011, 10:26 AM EDT
Get over yourself. Who died and made You God! How dare you sit in judgement with such a small mind. I have gays in my family and I have never felt such respect and love from straights. I am straight but my family is the best thing that ever happened to me.