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As a gay Irishman, Obama’s support on same sex marriage means everything

Posted on Thursday, May 10, 2012 at 08:24 AM

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Obama offers support to gay marriage (Credit: Politico)
 


President Barack Obama's announcement yesterday that same sex couples should be able to get married is a historic moment in a presidency that hasn't been short of them.

With that statement the president has made it clear that it's wrong to prevent couples who are in loving, committed relationships from getting married.

Let's be quite clear, this was not another cheap political calculation. No matter how his critics on the right try to frame it, this was not inconsequential pandering, this took the kind of political courage we haven't seen from the Oval Office in decades.

This is the President of the United States of America standing up for the civil rights of a minority that marks a turning point in our history. Its importance is both substantive and symbolic, nationally and globally, and its impact will be profound. World leaders will take note and the wisest will eventually follow his example.

There are multiple ironies, as I'm quite sure he's aware, in the fact that Barack Obama has become an Abraham Lincoln on gay rights. Like Lincoln the president has gambled that doing the right thing will be better for the nation that doing the politically safe thing. Those who support him and those who have wavered lately cannot doubt his commitment to progressive change now. That awareness will further energize his campaign.

Let me just put this in a personal context for a moment. All of my life I have watched gay people be passed over for promotion, be written out of wills, be un-invited to weddings, funerals and family gatherings. I have seen them insulted, spat at, physically attacked and treated like garbage. I have seen parents, brothers and sisters bait them, belittle them, physically injure them, or turn their backs on them, then throw them out of doors forever in Ireland, Europe and the United States

And I have seen the brutal toll of all that shaming and rejection lead some of them to ruin. Some of the kindest, most beautiful souls I have known are dead now because of that daily avalanche of hatred and ignorance. And all because they loved the wrong person. Nothing is more shocking to me than that.
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It would have been easier and safer for the president to have dodged this issue all the way to November. I'm amazed and enormously moved that he decided not to. We already know that 50 percent of Americans now support extending full marriage rights to gay couples. Opposition to same sex marriage has dropped by nearly 15 percentage points since 2002. Again, Obama did the right thing here, not the safe thing.

It's also important to remember that changes that seemed unthinkable in 2008 are realities in 2012 thanks to Obama's transformative presidency: we have a National Health Care Act, DADT has been repealed, our troops are finally returned from Iraq, the Obama administration has presided over the biggest financial reforms since the Great Depression, and now this.

Remember that this is president for who promised Hope and Change to a nation exhausted after eight years of the George W. Bush presidency that saw 9/11 and the Iraq War and fake WMD and Halliburton and fake Terror Alerts and Habeas Corpus suspended and Enhanced Interrogation and Abu Ghraib and Tax Cuts for the rich and and Hurricane Katrina for the poor and then the near collapse of American capitalism. It was, or it felt like, a reign of (color coded) terror.

Some may have forgotten lost years, but I never will. And now along comes Mitt Romney looking like an older washed out Don Draper come to take us back to the future in his GOP powered DeLorean.

Romney seems like a nice man, but he never had - and he never will have - President Obama's courage or commitment to his principals. He stands there framed by a white picket fence that welcomes only the select few, not the many. Obama's brave act yesterday has underscored the truth about Mitt Romney: he's yesterday's model, he yesterday's man.

We're in a brave new world now. And the message from the president is the message from history: we have nothing to fear from love.
 
 Here's President Obama's pronouncement: 


 




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AMERICANS ARE YEARS BEHIND US IN IRELAND WHEN IT COMES TO GAY MARRIAGE ETC .. MOST PEOPLE IN IRELAND INCLUDING MYSELF SUPPORT GAY MARRIAGE ... AND THIS IS ANOTHER REASON WHY AMERICANS WHO THINK THEY ARE IRISH ARE SO CULTURALLY AND PERSONALITY WISE SO DIFFERENT TO US IRISH... I PITY ANY GAY PERSON LIVING IN AMERICA ITS OK TO CARRY GUNS AND WALK AROUND AND SHOOT PEOPLE BUT TO BE GAY IN AMERICA ITS LIKE A SIN .. YOUR A SECOND CLASS CITIZEN .. SAD BUT TRUE....ANYWAYS THATS THEIR PROBLEM NOT OURS !!!
Obama's support of same-sex marriages doesn't go far enough. In order to give homosexuals a wider range of choices when selecting a partner, the age of concent for teenaged homosexuals should be lowered from 18 to 16 or even 15.
What's the Defense of Marriage Act (DOMA) if not a government working against the rights of the individual? Your bombastic statements never make any sense BRIANO.
first off the polygamy comment was not mine. the far left seeks a socialistic form of government working from the top down wherein the freedom of the individual is compromised for the supposed good of the collective group.
BrianO -- In order to avoid confusion, and so that we all agree on what we're talking about, could you please explain what you mean by the far left? What is it?
BrianO, I forgot to mention the threat that polygamy poses to separation of church and state: "The cost to governments of trying to dismantle the FLDS theocracy has been extraordinary.... Arizona and Utah have spent millions of dollars in the past three years attempting to regain secular control of town councils, police departments, schools, and private property seized by the FLDS in Hildale, Utah, and adjoining Colorado City, Arizona. The effort has had mixed success, with polygamists still firmly in control of the town councils and the police force that the two towns share." Also "The U.S. Supreme Court ruled in the landmark Reynolds case in 1878 'that plural marriages shall not be allowed.' Regarding Reynolds' argument that he should not be charged with bigamy in the Utah Territory after taking a second wife, the Supreme Court ruled that laws prohibiting polygamy cannot be ignored simply because polygamy is a religious belief" (Phoenix New Times, Oct 4, 2007). Religion does not trump the common (moral) good, even when the bible clearly supports polygamy.
BrianO, how does support for same-sex marriage "reduce individual freedoms"? 'Seems to me, it leaves the individual more free. In reply to your question about polygamy, you can research Warren Jeffs and the Fundamentalist Church of Latter Day Saints, which has practiced polygamy in recent years (Arizona, Utah) and created a hornet's nest of problems, for example, pedophilia and under-age marriages of girls, withholding of education from girls, rape of minors, and driving out of the "surplus" teenaged men that communities have when male leaders are "rewarded" with three or more wives. Considering how much we currently know of the harm done by polygamy, the Supreme Court is not at all like to reverse its 19th century ruling against it.
For the hopeful open minded idealists, beware, as you are being recruited by the far left. use reason and regard all comments on this site as propaganda, The left uses situations to reduce individual freedoms.
i want to know from the people who support gay marriage, what then is the legitimate argument against polygamy?
you should never mix religion,family,and politics,in any order.Would'nt it be great if the United states of AmericA,were a nation of neutral,unbiased people,we can only dream.
Peterson, the bible says lots of things. For example, it says that handicapped people may ust not approach the altar. And it says that women during menstruation are unclean. It also explains how you must beat a slave woman after you have sex with her. I guess you're just cherry-picking the bits that suit your own personal dislikes, right? Laws of God? Please.
What does the Bible say about gays ?? Many many of us go by the laws of God !!
IrelandNorth - Would you prevent post-menopausal women from marrying?
"If the purpose of marriage is procreation," but the purpose of marriage is obviously NOT procreation. People can procreate without marriage, and many married couples don't procreate. Try an experiment of the imagination, just to see how tyrannical your position is, IrelandN: Imagine a county clerk requiring that you and your fiancee submit proof that you can and will procreate as often as the law demands. If you cannot or refuse to submit that evidence, the clerk will refuse to issue you a marriage license. Now isn't that ridiculous? The state has an interest in marriage in part because it has an interest in children growing up in stable environments. But heterosexual marriage has a 50% divorce rate, not just among childless or empty-nest couples, so limiting marriage to opposite-sex couples does not fulfill that purpose. And lesbian and gay couples also raise children. Marriage is about intimate relationships as well as family. There are no excuses for excluding anyone on the basis of "procreation."
Same sex marriages are oxymoronic. If the purpose of marriage is procreation - a biological impossibility for same sexers, what's the frickin' point. Furthermore, not all homosexuals are gay. Many are quite depressed. Contrary to what genital narcissists might think, the cosmos doesn't revolve around their silly little willies.




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