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As a gay Irishman, Obama’s support on same sex marriage means everything

Posted on Thursday, May 10, 2012 at 08:24 AM

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Obama offers support to gay marriage (Credit: Politico)
 


President Barack Obama's announcement yesterday that same sex couples should be able to get married is a historic moment in a presidency that hasn't been short of them.

With that statement the president has made it clear that it's wrong to prevent couples who are in loving, committed relationships from getting married.

Let's be quite clear, this was not another cheap political calculation. No matter how his critics on the right try to frame it, this was not inconsequential pandering, this took the kind of political courage we haven't seen from the Oval Office in decades.

This is the President of the United States of America standing up for the civil rights of a minority that marks a turning point in our history. Its importance is both substantive and symbolic, nationally and globally, and its impact will be profound. World leaders will take note and the wisest will eventually follow his example.

There are multiple ironies, as I'm quite sure he's aware, in the fact that Barack Obama has become an Abraham Lincoln on gay rights. Like Lincoln the president has gambled that doing the right thing will be better for the nation that doing the politically safe thing. Those who support him and those who have wavered lately cannot doubt his commitment to progressive change now. That awareness will further energize his campaign.

Let me just put this in a personal context for a moment. All of my life I have watched gay people be passed over for promotion, be written out of wills, be un-invited to weddings, funerals and family gatherings. I have seen them insulted, spat at, physically attacked and treated like garbage. I have seen parents, brothers and sisters bait them, belittle them, physically injure them, or turn their backs on them, then throw them out of doors forever in Ireland, Europe and the United States

And I have seen the brutal toll of all that shaming and rejection lead some of them to ruin. Some of the kindest, most beautiful souls I have known are dead now because of that daily avalanche of hatred and ignorance. And all because they loved the wrong person. Nothing is more shocking to me than that.
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It would have been easier and safer for the president to have dodged this issue all the way to November. I'm amazed and enormously moved that he decided not to. We already know that 50 percent of Americans now support extending full marriage rights to gay couples. Opposition to same sex marriage has dropped by nearly 15 percentage points since 2002. Again, Obama did the right thing here, not the safe thing.

It's also important to remember that changes that seemed unthinkable in 2008 are realities in 2012 thanks to Obama's transformative presidency: we have a National Health Care Act, DADT has been repealed, our troops are finally returned from Iraq, the Obama administration has presided over the biggest financial reforms since the Great Depression, and now this.

Remember that this is president for who promised Hope and Change to a nation exhausted after eight years of the George W. Bush presidency that saw 9/11 and the Iraq War and fake WMD and Halliburton and fake Terror Alerts and Habeas Corpus suspended and Enhanced Interrogation and Abu Ghraib and Tax Cuts for the rich and and Hurricane Katrina for the poor and then the near collapse of American capitalism. It was, or it felt like, a reign of (color coded) terror.

Some may have forgotten lost years, but I never will. And now along comes Mitt Romney looking like an older washed out Don Draper come to take us back to the future in his GOP powered DeLorean.

Romney seems like a nice man, but he never had - and he never will have - President Obama's courage or commitment to his principals. He stands there framed by a white picket fence that welcomes only the select few, not the many. Obama's brave act yesterday has underscored the truth about Mitt Romney: he's yesterday's model, he yesterday's man.

We're in a brave new world now. And the message from the president is the message from history: we have nothing to fear from love.
 
 Here's President Obama's pronouncement: 


 




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Murph46 You ask who I am. What exactly do you mean by that? you seem to be questioning my right to take part in this discussion.
@IrishAndProud - Evolution is an ongoing process and we are all at different points on the road to enlightenment. I do not doubt that the President will continue to evolve and I fully support him on his journey. Join us, please!
So Cahir Am I gay or am I straight? do you know ephraim, mamaginnity, hollaback?
I admire Cahir for printing the truth and I admire Obama as well. I may be the oldest person on this site, I am Irish and live in Ireland. Years ago we had certain types who beat a gay person, stupid people. We have excepted people who are gay, I actually hate the word gay, maybe it is because we are a small country, with so many small villages, your best friend came out and finally told you they were gay, people you played with as a child, grew up with, you knew they were " different " but it did not matter, you loved them then...you love them now. Ireland has excepted them and why not, god made them. Over the years I have met so many of these beautiful genuine people, seen their love for one another, and it broke my heart to see what they were living through. Years ago I did see what Cahir mentioned, parents ashamed, pushing their child away, disowning them as they got older, brothers beating them. it did happen. Those same brothers get married the so called correct way and beat their wives and maybe the children, what gives them the right, is it because that little bit of mainly religious paper gives them the right. Religion itself has cause so many wars world wide. In Ireland we lived it. America is a messed up country, to many states, with to many different laws, and causing each group/state to hate the other. Go out and meet these different people whether gay, black or white..white, the so called intelligent superior animal on this planet, tis no wonder god makes us burn.
Proud Canadian, you aren't worth speaking to. i try to address the merits, you meanwhile are nothing more than a demagogue and race baiter. you are proof that when the left can't win on the merits, you hurtle invective and epitaphs.

mouse, i will respond to you, b/c you are civil. i absolutely believe there is a valid argument to be made for, and against, saying gays should be federally treated as a "protected class." but don't conflate that with gay marriage, b/c even if they were, that doesn't confer such desired rights.

as to the other issue, LOTS of things are necessary in health care, and much more important for people to be able to live at all, indeed survive, than birth control, which is not medicene or treatment for a disease. should men get free condoms from their insurance? the whole thing is insane. if you agree gov't should not be involved AT ALL in health care, join me, my side. what i propose is that gov't get out of telling companies what to do, and let them compete. plans with more and better coverage WILL win out, as long as you are willing to pay for them. thats the free market.

but the bigger point is that its insane and ridiculous to say that b/c a politician doesn't believe the gov't has a role to play in telling insurance companies what to pay for, or not, they then are conducting a "war on women." don't fall for such CHEAP and LAME come ons. its leftist jingoism.
This article insults the intelligence of Irish Central's subscribers. Clearly a far left wing editorial. This publication is becoming a joke with contributors like Cahir. Marriage and divorce are state issues, not federal, unless Obuma through his Chicago politics decides to change the Civil Rights Act. Again, more government intrusion in our day to day life. By the way, I'm not against gay marriage, just the federal government control and intrusion into my life.
If you like Obama, this decision is a Crowning Point in a Failed Presidency. If you do not trust Obama, (I am one of those), this was a very easy pander. He's not going to do anything to dictate the law. He just saw the $$$$ from the Gay Community flowing his way. We of Irish heritage can get sentimental and weepy over certain visceral issues important to us. Do not be fooled by this Evil President.
And also, Mousemess...what do you mean, Obama's 'already ahead in electoral votes?' Not a single vote's been cast, yet! If you mean he happens to be 'ahead' in certain states, you're basing that on very fluid polls, very early on. My goodness, Reagan was even with or BEHIND Jimmy Carter, just weeks before the 1980 election, and Reagan won in a landslide. Bush 41 was riding 90% or more approval ratings in 1991, and yet lost to Clinton the very next year. So now you're going to say that just because Obama's barely ahead in CERTAIN polls with only REGISTERED voters being polled, and because that COLLECTIVELY APPEARS to give him an electoral edge (which has NEVER been accurate, this far out) that he's flatly 'going to win'? You're not basing that on very stable numbers, kiddo.
Here's a gay publication that is not at ALL happy with what Barack Obama has done: it's stonezone-dot-com. Also, Mousemess, you're right that the votes of homosexuals (many of whom are conservatives, btw, and will not necessarily vote for Obama) won't be needed...because the landslide heading Obama's way this November could be quite substantial. Not only does he obviously not have the GOP vote (not significant by itself -- except that in voter registration Repubs outnumber Democrats and are much more interested and enthusiastic than Democrats), but Obama is also WAY behind Romney with the independent vote (people like myself)...and that is political death. Consider also that in every poll which gives Obama and 'edge,' they come from A) left wing sources that B) oversample Democrats and/or C) poll only registered voters, because it's easier...and as any pollster worth their salt will tell you, there's an enormous difference between registered and LIKELY voters, where it's much closer...and we're not even at JUNE, yet!
Borefield, Obama doesn't need the votes. He is already ahead of Romney in electoral votes and he has millions of votes he can count on November 6th (the USA's general election day for president,congresspersons, local and state officials and ballot questions) and will have even more as people come to understand that Romney is not the right person for the USA president for many reasons totally unrelated to his faith.
Alise, Thanks for pointing out the disparities between how straights and gays are treated in different ways. Mr, Sinatra, While it's true that it's now illegal to in most of the US Northeastern states including Maryland where I live to fire and not hire people for being gay, to deny people with good paying history, good credit and good jobs rental housing or home purchase solely on the basis of being gay and to deny them public accommodations in hotels and B Bs just for being gay, unfortunately in so much of the USA that kind of discrimination in jobs, housing and public accommodations still exists and has no place in a modern, advanced Western democracy such as the USA.
Mr. Sinatra, of the subject you addressed me on: When US Congressmen and Congresswoman can pass laws that give employers the right to decide whether they want mammograms and other vitally important and potentially life-saving female health care procedures to be covered (there is sir a big difference between choosing between a bag of lettuce and of spinach at the grocery store and the health and lives of company employees also know as human beings I hope you know) This should be between the woman and her doctor or on vital life-saving men's health between a man and his doctor and not between an employer and their employees. Congress should NOT be involved in this but unfortunately the facts of the case is that Congress is involved like ir or not. I pay close attention to my country's issues, that's how I know about this.
Ephraim, you are making utterly NO sense, here. In one sentence, you say you're 'proud' to support Barack Obama, and yet in the very next sentence boast how courts are overruling the will of the states, where Obama said it should be left. Which is it, kiddo?
I am proud to support President Obama. His statement of PERSONAL belief was historic in that it was the first time a sitting American President has taken this stand. It is one more step toward an America that lives up to the promises of her founder's words. California's Proposition Eight has been declared unconstitutional by the Federal Courts and the two lawyers that fought Bush v. Gore in front of the Supreme court are combining forces (one TRUE conservative and one liberal) to proclaim its unconstitutionality there as well. State marriage laws have come before the supreme court four times in the past and a person's right to marry the person of their chosing has always been upheld. All of the similar state laws will likewise be found unconstitutional. When the dust clears marriage equality will be rightfully recognised as an inalienable right (pursuit of happiness) and in thirty or forty years people will not be able to recall what the fuss was all about. The universe bends toward justice - MLK.
What, exactly, has Obama accomplished, here...other than stating opinions? What law has been accomplished, what opinions nationwide have been changed? Everyone, pro or con, knew he felt this way on this issue, already.
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