The Matchmaker by Maureen Tara Nelson
Help me - I love sex, had an affair and now I want my highschool sweetheart back
Posted on Sunday, October 14, 2012 at 06:47 AM
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I have a huge problem with my girlfriend of five years. We are high school sweethearts and I know she's the one I want to marry one day. She has been talking about getting married for the past year almost every day despite the fact that I told her I need to finish college and get my career set first. We have been living together for the past three years and I think it's the perfect situation. I have loved her from the first time we had sex in high school. We have a lot of the same interests and I have lots of chemistry with her. She believes like me that when you love each other, you should have sex every day. In the past five years we have had sex almost every day, except beginning a month ago.
Last month she got hurt and had to be laid up. Since I work and go to school I obviously couldn't take care of her so she stayed at her mother's house. I tried to come over as much as I could, but it was really hard with my busy schedule. I really missed having sex with her every day. Many times I had to do it myself since I couldn't make it over to her mom’s house, but I always thought of her while pleasing myself.
She has another month of resting before she can move back in. Every night that I can't come over she now gives me a hard time and has been breaking my balls about not seeing her. She has been really driving me nuts to the point where I had to look elsewhere for sex. There's a girl in my school and we've always kind of flirted with each other. Once my girlfriend started pushing me hard I stepped it up with this girl. I found out she enjoys having sex as much as I do. She told me she hasn't had sex since her last boyfriend a year ago. She was definitely hinting to have sex with me. I never mentioned to this girl that I have a girlfriend.
We ended up having sex only four times and it was great. Even though I love my girlfriend it was such a high to be with someone else. Well last week after seeing the girl I was on my way home and my girlfriend called and demanded I come over to talk. I told her I was really exhausted but she didn't care. I got there and all she kept saying was that she feels I don't love her anymore since the past two weeks I've been going over there less than usual. I ended up falling asleep in her bed and the girl from school texted me that I forgot my book at her house and how great the sex we had was. She woke me up hysterical and told me to leave. That was last week and she won't talk to me and I'm not allowed over her mom's house to see her.
I am really sorry for what I did and realize how stupid it was. I told the girl in school and she now hates me too because I didn't tell her I had a girlfriend. I don't know what to do. I miss my girlfriend and want her back but she won't give me a chance to explain my side of why I did what I did. Is there any advice you can give me to get my girlfriend back?
Thanks, - Joey
You got yourself into quite a mess. Since you realize it was stupid cheating on your girlfriend and realize you made a mistake, there might be a sliver of hope for you. Since you already know you were wrong I won't give you a lecture on what a jerk you were to your girlfriend. I have no way of knowing if your girlfriend will ever take you back or ever trust you again. Only time will tell. That's why when you're in a relationship, you don't cheat, because if you do, you will most likely lose the person when they find out. And they always find out.
My advice is that you prove to her every day how much you miss her and beg her to give you another chance. I suggest sending flowers every week, and calling every day and leaving messages for her that you want to talk and tell her how sorry you are. She might not ever forgive you but if she sees how hard you are trying she might be willing to hear what you have to say. If you get that chance don't make excuses. Admit you were wrong and assure her you won't ever make such a stupid mistake again. When you love someone you should love them not only when things are great but more importantly when things go wrong. You messed up big time kid. Good luck to you. Keep me posted on what happens. - MTN
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