Today is a special day in Ireland when we celebrate the women who worked so tirelessly during the holiday period.
Nollaig na nBan or the Feast of the Epiphany, as it is more commonly known, marks the end of the Christmas period.
Traditionally in Ireland, women would finally get a much needed rest after catering to everyone during the festivities.
In the south especially, women would gather in each other’s homes and local pubs for a few stolen hours of gaiety while the men looked after the brood.
To me, this is a wonderful holiday as it reminds us, as Irish people, about the strength of Irish women, especially mothers.
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I am sure those of you who have been lucky enough to experience an Irish mammy will agree that nothing or no-one compares.
Before Ireland was flooded with money and “notions of upperosity”, the women who went before us were the backbone of the family, who seldom received much credit for rearing large families.
These are the women who would have celebrated today and been thrown by the insanity of a few hours peace to themselves with their female comrades from the neighborhood.
My two grandmothers raised 15 children between them, which has many benefits for me as a grandchild and niece, but had obvious drawbacks for them as mothers.
Our female ancestors in Ireland would think nothing of manual labor such as saving the turf, cutting the hay, and whitewashing the barns. Magically, they would juggle such tasks with cooking for their large broods, cleaning, and going through child birth every few years.
In old Ireland there was no mistaking the fact that the woman’s place was in the home.
Of course, this fact seems like an insane concept to Ireland’s new breed of high-powered, well educated women.
Despite our evolution, the heart and soul of Irish women remains unaltered.
When catching my latest flight back to New York, my mother got up at 5am to make tea and cut thick slices of her homemade brown bread, smothered with her homemade jam, simply because that is what Irish mammies do.
When we were teenagers, all the girls would have a sleepover in Drake’s sitting room and the next morning Jenny’s mam would cook us all a full Irish. I can still smell the Clonakility black and white pudding.
When your friends spend ten minutes chatting to your mother in the kitchen before you realize they are even in the house.
When your best friend’s, boyfriend’s mother gets up at 1am to make you all tea after your night on the town before placing a hot water bottle in your bed.
The click of the kettle as it boils, the softened muffle of the fridge door as it opens, the familiar voice and the warm smile; an Irish mammy just going about her day.
And so I think this is one holiday that we should wholeheartedly embrace. Not just for wonderful Irish women and mothers but for females around the world.
At some stage today, take the time to appreciate those Irish women you have been lucky enough to encounter.
We may be getting married later, and having fewer children, but the Irish blood running through our veins remains the same.
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Switch to the desktop site to post a comment.Searlit | Jan 07, 2012, 06:07 PM EST
I think I'll start celebrating it.
wilhoef | Jan 07, 2012, 12:30 PM EST
We do have a special day like this in America - it's called Mother's Day.
EileenL | Jan 06, 2012, 09:19 PM EST
Clara and Jamie Little Christmas is celebrated every Jan 6th where ever Irish Moms live here in America ,its not a custom we dropped when we left Ireland New York ,Queens Statten Island to name a few are jumping tonight with Irish Moms having a toast to themselves for a jobwell done another custom the tree doesnt come down until after the 6th ,,so to all the Irish Moms i salute you ,,,its a lovely custom that will live on with Irish Moms,,,
ciaradexy | Jan 06, 2012, 03:37 PM EST
This is merely a name given to a day of the year. It is not celebrated.
jamieLM | Jan 06, 2012, 12:55 PM EST
What a great idea. It's a really nice thing to do. I'm envious that we don't have a special day like this in America.
muirisobric | Jan 06, 2012, 12:09 PM EST
We celebrated Nollaig na mBan - Women's Christmas in Gorta Dubha & we looked forward to it. It was also known as Féile na dTrí Rithe - Feast of the Three Kings & Oíche Nollaig Bheag - Small Christmas Night. On such a night we decided to help Mom withe the chores so she could rest bur a few unfortunate breakages & a malfunction of a colective attempt to empty a basin of dishwater without spilling it promptrd Mom to arise from her comfort & finish what had to be done. We did bring in several gabháls of turf & that enabled her to sit in front of a blazing fire for the rest of the night. By dear friend Helen Ní Shé of Radio na Gaeltacht reminded me of a quaint tradition in their village long ago. They all loved Christmas. It was a brightness in a sometimes long and dreary winter. The people of her village, Cathairscuilibín would walk out the road from the village & stretch a rope across to stop Christmas from leaving. It was symbolic & there weren't any cars of course so that rope could stretch across for weeks.
Searlit | Jan 06, 2012, 11:32 AM EST
Nollaig na nBan shona daoibh!