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Mommy Diaries - A mother’s worst nightmare - adventures turn into nightmares, preparing to go home


Colum and baby Sadie safe and fast asleep.
Colum and baby Sadie safe and fast asleep.

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An adventure on his own outside nearly turned to disaster for baby Colum, but his mom April Drew turned out to be more hurt than he was.  April also writes about the family’s last weeks in New York as they await the move to Ireland.

It's a sound no mother wants to hear. The shrill of her child, almost animal like, coming from the distance.

Two weeks ago my son Colum was playing outside. We have a small patio area at the side of our home. There are two gates at either end, one leading to the front of the house (and the main road) and the second opens onto 12 steps down to the back garden.

I was by the door packing Easter decorations into a box when all of a sudden I could hear a frightening roar from outside. At first I thought it came from one of the older kids next door. I automatically dropped what I was doing and ran outside.

I couldn’t see Colum, my 16-month-old, anywhere. My initial thoughts were that he had been kidnapped. Where could he have gone in the space of a minute?

Then out of the corner of my eye I could see the gate leading down to the back garden open. There at the bottom of the 12 concrete steps lay my little boy. His face was pressed against the cold stone and his breaths were so deep he found it hard to cry.

I raced down and swooped him up in my arms. He cried like I’ve never heard him cry before. He had managed to open the gate and fall head first down the 12 steps.

Did I mention they were concrete! His face was swollen like a balloon.

Thankfully nothing seemed to be broken, and at the bribe of some left-over Easter egg he seemed to calm right down and finally stop crying.

Erring on the side of caution, we brought him to Westchester Medical Center – it’s a trauma one hospital. Thankfully after a few hours of observation Colum was back to his normal self, despite having a face like he just went 12 rounds with Floyd Mayweather.

I wasn’t the better of the accident for a few days. That night when we came home from the hospital and had both Colum and our now nine-week-old baby girl, Sadie, sound asleep I sat on the couch with John, my husband, and cried. 

It was my fault he fell. I hadn’t checked the gate latch before allowing him to play outside. His injuries were extremely minor, but they could have been a whole lot worse.

That night I went to sleep vividly remembering the little person at the bottom of the steps, helpless and in pain. Many have told me since “it happens to every child” and “it’s the first of many,” so I guess the worst is over me – his first major fall and all that.

So now the real countdown is on for our big move back to Ireland. We are four weeks away from filling a small container with our life’s belongings.

It’s hardly believable really that it has come around so fast. We are already meeting friends for the last goodbyes. Who knows when we will see some of them again.

It’s really and truly heartbreaking not knowing the next time I’ll be able to give my best friend in New York, Marion, a big hug, or when I’ll taste Tara Tobin’s roast chicken dinners or have a long natter about life with Gerry Gleeson over a cuppa. Or have play dates with my friend’s children or any of that good stuff.


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That's a lovely picture of Colum and Sadie, sleeping. I'm glad he suffered only mild injuries. Boys, especially are known for their rough and tumble nature. The one thing about being little is you're alot closer to the ground, so you have less distance to crash into it. It still hurts, but there's less force involved. I think your children will love growing up in Ireland. I hope it works out well for you.
Excellent plan moving home while the kids are small. It's awfully difficult raising them without family nearby as I know from experience. Glad your son is okay after the fall. Just wanted to say that 16 months is way too young to be allowed to play outdoors out of your sight. These days, even 5 years old is too young to be alone outdoors. Please keep your little ones always in your sight. Nothing needs your attention more than they do.
So glad that your baby son is well and healthy ,my heart sank when I first read your first few lines as I could relate ,mine also fell down a flight of concrete stairs ,not while I was watching him but some one else ,he came away with a few bruises,I still get angry when I think about it ,but he's now grown in to a nice young man no worse for the wear, hopefully you'll settle in back home and things will go well for you,just keep those babies close to you as if you were still in New York as Ireland has changed so much with crime drugs etc.and you'll do fine .Good luck to you and your family
RedBranch, the First Communion payment of 242 Euros has been "slashed" to 110 euros in the new austerity budget. Of course there are no payments to those of other religions for their religious events.
RedBranch, that payment just scratches the surface of expectation. There's the horse drawn carriages, the several hundred dollar communion outfit with designer shoes and bag for the girls, fake tans, manicures for the girls as well, the reception for 300 or so of the closest friends and relatives at a posh hotel or castle, etc. The gifts, preferably monetary, from family members and friends would of course be expected to meet those posh standards.
Its not all doom and gloom, isn't there a 1st Communion payment of $1000?
bantaxed, just realistic!
Bythebay - you're a real bundle of fun aren't you!!!!!!!!!!
Hopefully you've checked the Limerick Health System and Educational System and are aware of what they are and don't expect parallels to Queens in the US. Radio Kerry or RTE Radio aren't Limerick. You hopefully are also aware of the high crime rates in Limerick and pervasive gangs. Ideally your family has already agreed to your expectation of financial and physical support from them. You're also no doubt aware of current expectations in Ireland regarding wedding and birthday gifts. And as you know don't expect US style housing either.
So glad Colum is okay. Don't beat yourself up about it. Something similar happened with me when my son was around the same age. And good luck on your move home. I hope it works out for you and your family and that you'll let us know how things are going.
I hope you continue to write after you go home. I would love to read about your thoughts and how it is working out for you. I too moved my family back to Ireland in 2001 and came back again to the US in 2003. Best of luck.
April....Good Luck to you and your family...and Thank GOD that Colum is OK.
 




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