Irish women are a force to be reckoned with. We have evolved through the decades into an independent, intelligent and ambitious race. However, our rules of engagement can differ from norms here in the United States. So, best to school yourself in our ways, means, and desires before attempting to woo a lovely Irish girl.
Here are a few guidelines.
1. The Emerald Isle…Google it!
Ireland is a small island on the cusp of Europe. No we don’t live in the dark ages and yes we have electricity, the Internet and Sushi.
If you are going to impress an Irish girl then you need to have a scant knowledge of European geography. Before complimenting us on how well we speak English, take into account that it is in fact our first language.
Perhaps you have not been lucky enough to travel to Ireland, or venture to Europe. However one should express a desire to visit our green pastures.
2. Irish Heritage
Of course you’re Irish! Aren’t we all.
If you insist on telling the world that you have Irish heritage, then please do your homework. It is not OK to claim lineage and then fail to point out which county your ancestors hailed from. Even a guess is better than “Umm I think somewhere in the South”.
If you are tempted to lie about your lineage then throw some Mediterranean countries into the mix also. Maybe your half Italian/Sicilian.
3. Date settings
Where do you bring an Irish lady on a date?
For a first date the movies are out of the running. We like to talk, we are a nation of talkers. Loquacious to the core. So best to bring the lady somewhere you can have some good banter. Dinner, drinks maybe even a walk in the park.
Be imaginative. Use your extended knowledge of your home country to your advantage here.
4. Terms of Endearment
Try where possible to remain endearing without over use of nauseating terms such as honey, sweetie, baby, etc. You are just getting to know each other, chances are you don’t even know eachothers last names. No need for over the top labels.
Generally Irish women are not very good at taking compliments so go easy on the charm. There should be subtlety involved. If you tell an Irish girl she is beautiful, sexy etc they are not going to know where to look. Instead offer mild flattery such as “Your eyes are very pretty”. Our pale skin and freckles are a somewhat touchy subject especially when we are constantly surrounded by American bronzed goddesses. Do not point out the fact that even though it’s the height of summer we still look as white as a ghost.
5. Drinking habits
If by chance there is alcohol involved, take it easy on the gargle. You are not going to impress an Irish girl by getting rat-arsed. Chances are we can and will drink you under the table. So before disaster, admit defeat and take it one drink at a time. In Ireland, light beer is seen as a woman’s drink so perhaps don’t order a Bud Light!
6. Be Chivalrous
Work that American charm that you’re famous for. Hold open doors, offer to pay for drinks/dinner. Irish men are known for many things, but American men definitely trump them in terms of chivalry. So put all those good habits your mother taught you to work.
7. Some Final Don’ts
Do not mention Riverdance, the IRA, or Bono. These topics of conversation will not whip your date into a verbal frenzy. Try to avoid religion and politics also. We are very feisty by nature so it’s not a good idea to get us fired up at this early stage.
All in all, we are not that complicated. We like good banter and a beer. Try not to mention the fact that you still live with your parents and that you don’t know how much your car loan repayments are, because your parents pay them. You need to come across as the stereotypical American man of strength and courage. Just keep these helpful hints in mind and the Irish ladies should be lapping it up.
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Switch to the desktop site to post a comment.LiamtheDream | May 22, 2013, 08:10 PM EDT
No! No! No! Do not take her for a walk in the park. Like every other female, she will brand you as CHEAP. Come on lads, spend a little money before time.
bignevermo | Aug 14, 2012, 10:22 AM EDT
livingindublin...so why is it my fault this site's comment section does not work like we want it to? Nobody will fix the problem it seems to me...to bad you cant hear me as I am an American! I also can do all kinds of American accents...I do so love the redheads and feisty attitudes...Sea-ya in Dublin!! :)
STEVENSTAR | Aug 13, 2012, 12:23 PM EDT
@@pattbaa | Feb 14, 2012, 01:42 PM EST I'm a "Yank" living in the NYC Metro area , and can truthfully state that Irish women find me very attractive because I have dated so many of them. I can also state I am qualified to asseverate that their is a vast difference between the "attitude" of Irish women and women from England and Scotland. Irish women are "down to earth" whereas women from England and Scotland behave as if they were from Royalty despite the fact that they are from a humble background , un-educated, and are crass, coarse,impolite , vulgar and lack good manners. Whereas Irish women find employement in the US and share apartments and "live on their own ", the English and Scottish women mostly worked as live-in domestics Jewish households.An experience that friend Shamus from Longford had with a Scottish woman is revealing; he meet her at a dance , offered a ride home ,and the arraogant woman sat in the back seat of the car , something a polite Irish woman would never do. So Shamus pulled a "ruse' and left her stranded in the "backcountry" of Stamford ( Connecticut) where she was living a domestic ; just what the B---- deserved.>>>>>>>>> IM IRISH AND MY PARTNER IS ENGLISH WHAT A LOAD OF RUBBISH !!YOU AMERICANS ARE SO VERY DELUDED !! I DOUBT YOU'LL FIND MANY IRISH NOT AMERICAN IRISH MAYBE YES, BUT BORN AND BRED IRISH WHO LIVE IN IRELAND I THINK YOULL FIND VERY FFEW OF THEM WITH AMERICAN PARTNERS AS THE CULTURE, PERSONALITIES ARE VERY DIFFERENT AND MOST IRISH FIND AMERICANS SELFISH AND WAY TOO DRAMATIC!! HOWS THAT FROM AN IRISHMANS OPINION?
angrypaddy | Aug 13, 2012, 02:57 AM EDT
Ciara I saw your pictures you are not a lot to look at bit of a big ass,stop eating junk food you'll be past your sell by date in no time,best advice have lots of kids and collect welfare thats your lot!!
Livingindublin | Jul 31, 2012, 05:45 PM EDT
Who is this idiot 'bignevermo' ? I made a comment on how much I like 'the American accent' and his name is over my comment. Can somebody fix this problem please!
bignevermo | Jul 09, 2012, 12:16 PM EDT
i AM 1/2 Irish AND 1/2 Norwegian...I really love light skin,freckles and red hair...oh I like those on a woman! :) fell free to email this big(2meters)16 stone and 6...:) bignevermo@gmail.com! :)
bignevermo | Jul 08, 2012, 06:32 PM EDT
I agree with redhead.ireland, the American accent iis gorgeous!! Wish there were some nice American men here in Dublin out on the social scene:( American women don't know how lucky they are. I love men who open doors and pull out a chair. Women have ruined it for themselves and have men confused.
Cyn | Jun 21, 2012, 09:25 PM EDT
ciaradexy, isn't pattbaa the sort of fellow you pat on the head and giggle about later?
Cyn | Jun 21, 2012, 09:23 PM EDT
Applause!
pattbaa | Feb 25, 2012, 02:28 PM EST
George Orwell's definition of free speech--- " Free Speech is the freedom to tell other people something they DO NOT WANT TO HEAR"-- (pb4xa,please take note---)
pb4xav | Feb 19, 2012, 01:31 PM EST
pattbaa. You are a both a Dork and Jerk, as per their full definition. No lady of any nationality deserves to be called a derogatory name because you do not agree with their custom! The Scottish woman sat in the back seat because American drunks are known to force themselves on women because the drunk thinks the woman want him, in reality, she want to go home and rinse her hands in bleach, loose the number and post on a social networking site the ignorance her "date" was! Take a note, Irish women do not like you because other Irish women went out with you! I believe if you told them the number of "others" there were, your next and only date would be with the 4-legged Dog down the street! I am disgusted by American's who think because they have a tiny spec of Irish heritage that they are God's Gift to the world. Grow up, the world is a complex and diverse place and we all need to get along to make it work! How to treat an Irish woman, as with any woman, with respect! If you abandon a woman in the middle of now where, you should be charged and serve jail time for abandonment! (and also need an @ss beating as per your manners!) By nature, I am not violent, unless the rights of others (and cultures) or myself are in jeopardy. You are truly disparaging to think you are better than anyone based on your own imagination of greatness! ...Do onto others as you would have them do onto you!.. think about it.
ciaradexy | Feb 15, 2012, 02:32 PM EST
Pattba, are you 150 years old?
pattbaa | Feb 15, 2012, 01:33 PM EST
When I first started meeting Irish women , there was two very paramount "rules" a man had to comply with in order to meet and please Irish women . Today they may be irrelevant , but then they both were a "must" ; (1) you must own a suit and (2) , you must BE ABLE TO DANCE !!!
ciaradexy | Feb 14, 2012, 04:04 PM EST
Shaunagh, gaelic wont be much use to you in ireland because Irish is spoken here by some, Gaelic isnt spoken by anyone in Ireland! Pattba, you are a fool. Youve met a few Irish,English and Scottish women and you are generalising dramatically. Ive met a few yanks, Im even related to a few but I cant generalise about an entire nation. You just did though. Maybe the Scottish woman sat in the back of the car because it is generally thought to be safer to do so when with a man you dont really know? The fact that he left her stranded makes him sound like an ungentlemanly @sshole. Any decent man would never have left her alone. You are a snob. There is nothing wrong with working as a cleaner in any household, Jewish or otherwise.
pattbaa | Feb 14, 2012, 01:42 PM EST
I'm a "Yank" living in the NYC Metro area , and can truthfully state that Irish women find me very attractive because I have dated so many of them. I can also state I am qualified to asseverate that their is a vast difference between the "attitude" of Irish women and women from England and Scotland. Irish women are "down to earth" whereas women from England and Scotland behave as if they were from Royalty despite the fact that they are from a humble background , un-educated, and are crass, coarse,impolite , vulgar and lack good manners. Whereas Irish women find employement in the US and share apartments and "live on their own ", the English and Scottish women mostly worked as live-in domestics Jewish households.An experience that friend Shamus from Longford had with a Scottish woman is revealing; he meet her at a dance , offered a ride home ,and the arraogant woman sat in the back seat of the car , something a polite Irish woman would never do. So Shamus pulled a "ruse' and left her stranded in the "backcountry" of Stamford ( Connecticut) where she was living a domestic ; just what the B---- deserved.
FunJeff | Feb 13, 2012, 12:47 PM EST
Hey redhead.ireland.... how starting with e-mail addresses? MyPhillyAlive@MyPhillyAlive.com Thanks, Jeff
redhead.ireland | Jan 12, 2012, 10:43 PM EST
The sexist accent in the world is american. wwII testified to that. any more americans here? i would love to swop numbers i love you guys you rock
miking2010 | Jan 11, 2012, 04:19 AM EST
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miking2010 | Jan 11, 2012, 03:58 AM EST
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billie061 | Oct 05, 2011, 03:43 PM EDT
I am a typical Irish woman, thou I think my Dad and 8 brothers would not agree. But 1 testament I have is from my 5 year old grandson he thinks I am better than even santa claus, I play basketball, soccer, gaa, take him out on his bcycle,I dress up with him for halloween, paddys day,I got a bouncy castle for him at 6 months old, which we both loved.I taught him how to take screws out with a drill at 2, gave him a shot glass of guinness at 3 which he hated but drank anyway, I hate it also. He has promised to bring me dancing, and when 17 will I buy him a jeep so he can mind me and bring me shopping. But best of all when he's 20 he wants to marry me. I am 49 going on 17 since this wonderful little boy came into my life.
bushmanirish | Sep 07, 2011, 12:46 AM EDT
I liked your article, Molly Muldoon. As an American man with zero knowledge of Irish women I found it funny and refreshing.
turzovka | Aug 09, 2011, 12:10 PM EDT
If an American male has any depth or wits about him, then I should think we would be highly intrigued by females of other nations. I truly enjoyed the tips here. I would like to think if one (a yank like me) is civil and polite, the topics of politics or religion can be broached, providing we do not come across as too opinionated or intransigent. But, the sad fact is, most Americans are not deep or thoughtful. They are truly narcissistic and boastful for all the wrong reasons. Especially if you are not grounded in some appreciation of God, then you will be far too focused on pleasure and sex and making yourself look so important or accomplished. It is such a bore, and such a sham. Get serious about life and religion (without hating on others' religion) and you will become much more charming. Being humble does not mean you cannot still be humorous and interesting.
allentown | Aug 05, 2011, 11:28 AM EDT
If you want to date an Irish girl from New York City, you must be a Policeman or Fireman. The Irish girls like the security.
JBRAFTREE | Jun 23, 2011, 11:14 AM EDT
I agree with cillowen with the usage of the f word. However, I met a beautiful nice girl, I imagine she's a girl, she's 4 days younger than my daughter. Met her in Galway, she's from Meath. She had stayed the evening in the lodge where I stayed, she had her car, I didn't have a rental. She drove us into town, we talked at the local coffee shop tea and scones for her. Coffee for me. Very pleasant conversation for both of us. Got her E-mail, I returned to Chgo 6 wks ago, she lives on her redundancy pay. We swap e-mails, and now I call her once a week. I want to return, but I can't read her like I can American gals.
timbobdennehy | Jun 22, 2011, 11:34 AM EDT
you would have to search for a long time to find love and compassion in a possible partner,money is the language here.irish girl ha,have you seen the melting pot in ireland recently,you could be chinese and be irish.
timbobdennehy | Jun 22, 2011, 11:31 AM EDT
money talks,you would have to search for a long time to find love and caring,in a modern day irish,god knows what else thrown in girl.
bunkerhill | Jun 22, 2011, 10:21 AM EDT
Thank you fedupirish for your knowledge and comment on the Irish women of Iceland. Historians have longed claimed that the "Sagas of Iceland" were Irish and now DNA has proven it. The Icelanders themselves has long said they were half Irish but the royals of Scandinavia called them liars. Icelandic DNA shows Irish on the female side and Norwegian on the Male side, a puzzle still to be worked out. The Icelanders themselves say they were never "Vikings" and the Irish women were not slaves. National Geographic has an article about 25 years ago saying the Icelandic sagas were originally Irish. By the way didn't the Scandinavians have to come from the South? Does anyone remember reading about the "Ice age." I have been to Ireland numerous times and think Irish women are beautiful.
islenita | Jun 15, 2011, 01:41 AM EDT
@majelladitto get raked over the coals and feeling a little sorry for your ignorant self so you need to deflect that anger. Look in the mirror if you're not an ugly cow you are now after that statement
JackofIraq | Jun 11, 2011, 04:34 PM EDT
The Irish women,....they can walk all right, if ya find a ugly one, it come from the damn Johnny Bulls being able to out run 'em!
billie061 | May 22, 2011, 03:35 PM EDT
have been to several places in U.S. never N.Y. yet, I visit Boston as my daughter lives there last 10 years and engaged to Italian Americian. majella object to you referring to us as cows I just hope your not female as it would be an insult to us as ladies, have you ever been to Ireland ? Ugly coyotes I think your thinking is ugly. I work in tourisim and thank god have never met an ugly Americian in thought or spirit. P.S. Majella brush up on your spelling.
fedupirish | May 10, 2011, 03:37 PM EDT
Irish women, fabulous! Everybody has goods and bads, strengths and weaknesses! Iceland, only country with 100% literacy. Attributed to the Irish woman brought as slaves(Boy, were they wrong!) by the Vikings. Gaelic, should have been our primary language, but as we know, history was not kind to us. Another reason for the strengths of Irish woman, our history.
shaunaghmairead | Apr 16, 2011, 11:52 PM EDT
i so much agree with the post by irishwxman concerning our "first language". i speak Gaelic as well as English. Thank the Good Lord that my parents and grandparents were sensible enough to teach my 2 sisters, my brother and myself our "Native Language!"
woofer1 | Feb 27, 2011, 09:14 AM EST
Irish girls are beautiful-no doubt. Do they have "their ways?" I suppose they do, but then, who doesn't, be it a guy or gal? Sometimes I even annoy myself. Anyway,I love you Irish gals....
WoundedKnee | Feb 24, 2011, 05:09 PM EST
liamkeyes: Big deal. I have found that the only place the Irish know of in the US is NYC, maybe Boston also. I'm always amazed at how the Irish hang around Woodside and the West Bronx, they have no curiosity about what's on the other side of the Hudson.
Liamkeyes | Feb 14, 2011, 10:46 AM EST
I have often asked Americans "What part of Ireland were your ancestors from?" The most numerous answer..."MMM Dublin I think." in other words, the only place that they know of in Ireland is Dublin.
KAnderson | Feb 06, 2011, 01:23 PM EST
points at the Gingers
McSpartacus | Jan 27, 2011, 08:54 AM EST
We have sushi?
hooligan6a | Jan 18, 2011, 09:27 AM EST
Wow, now the Yanks have a reputation, in europe of being cheap, it used to be we (yanks) threw our money around too much. We, just can't win, can we?
IrishChristian | Jan 04, 2011, 01:53 PM EST
irishwxman, u r sooo right! completely 100% agree! n the process of learning Gaelic myself & teaching my own children...immensely wish i had been taught Gaelic from birth. but better late than never i suppose :)
irishwxman | Jan 03, 2011, 11:23 AM EST
no. 6 is my fav. :-p
irishwxman | Jan 03, 2011, 11:21 AM EST
English is most definitely NOT your first language. It was a language forced upon the Irish by the British. Gaelic is your first language....and should be the national language.
sirpeter | Dec 26, 2010, 10:27 AM EST
1/Why did God make woman last?..He didn't want someone telling him what to do. ;)2/Why haven't any women ever gone to the moon?..It doesn't need cleaning yet. :)3/How many feminists does it take to change a light bulb?..Trick question, feminists can't change anything!4/If your wife keeps coming out of the kitchen to nag at you, what have you done wrong?..Made her chain too long ;)
mmccreedy | Oct 03, 2010, 10:34 AM EDT
In other words, don't be a twit. These tips really seem to be more common sense things than anything else. Who does not open a door for a lady? Sorry, I forgot that manners a in short supply here in the good 'ole US today. Oh well, maybe I will have some luck in the future and meet the Irish "girl" (woman) that I have been hoping to meet. Besides, American women have an attitude of entitlement, and that really drives me nuts!
ardgehane | Jul 26, 2010, 09:48 PM EDT
cuss like a salty sailor
jacersisityourself | Jul 26, 2010, 08:08 PM EDT
majella eile is talking through her hat.
jacersisityourself | Jul 26, 2010, 08:04 PM EDT
jakeleg (Jul 24) - are you kidding? Granted, the redheads are usually lovely soft kind caring people. But have ye met their tempers? Whooo-hooo! I wouldn't wish those tempers on anybody! :-)
majellamajella | Jul 25, 2010, 12:59 AM EDT
the most critical thing to know about irish cows is that they give out to get marriage & babies. they are easy compared to any other girl. best matched with their own kind. not good at sex but easy. like irish males, they have sex when drunk and often don't even remember. once pregnant, they turn a cold shoulder and orefer their babies to their man. stay far away if you are european or american and looking for good lovin'& any sensuality. they are so not sensual and coyote ugky.
Kevin325 | Jul 24, 2010, 11:46 AM EDT
Thanks walter3ca, that was great!!! That reminds me of my brother's ex-wife. SO TRUE!!!
jakeleg | Jul 24, 2010, 09:55 AM EDT
Irish girls are smart,friendly,funny and kind hearted.especially the redheads.
RustySax | Jul 23, 2010, 08:58 PM EDT
The scene: 1942, Langford Lodge air base outside Belfast. A USO show. A blind date between a Yank and an Irish lass. The result? A 20-year marriage that would have lasted a whole lot longer except for Dad's unexpected and untimely passing. Two kids, four grandchildren, six great grandchildren. All extremely proud of our Irish heritage. And at 93, that Irish lass STILL reminds her son to "mind his manners" around others! Lot of truth in that!! Thanks, Molly, for the enlightenment!
walter3ca | Jul 23, 2010, 08:22 PM EDT
Looks like a lot of reasons NOT to date an Irish lass, if you ask me. As for talking to one, good luck. They NEVER shut up. And they are ALWAYS right. I suggest that you look elsewhere.
SingleDonald | Jul 23, 2010, 07:42 PM EDT
Great advice! I think at least some of these tips might be effective with an Irish American girl as well! As previously indicated, I have always liked girls with "green blood", having gone to Catholic School in Woodside, Queens, N.Y. I often debate Irish men over who has the most attractive women! They usually choose Italian women, while I, an Italian American, always choose Irish women!
Oceaneyes | Jul 23, 2010, 05:18 PM EDT
I am no longer a lass and I am american born, but I found it interesting and comforting that your description of an Irish girl was so much like me when I was young. I have always wondered just how much Irish blood I actually have and apparently it's a lot.
Scrivner | Jul 23, 2010, 03:31 PM EDT
Great observations! Now if my wife would only let me date those Irish lasses...
mandokeith | Jul 23, 2010, 02:22 PM EDT
Ah if you are dog arse ugly it won't all matter then will it?
Liamkeyes | Jul 23, 2010, 11:24 AM EDT
For a first date, a walk in the Park is totally out of the Question. How cheap can you get? The Yanks have a reputation in Europe of being "Cheap" so maybe a show with a meal before hand and drinks later. At the very Least.
ODonnabhain | Jul 23, 2010, 11:23 AM EDT
Hilarious! I'm going to give this to my husband as well! You're never too old to learn! And guys, it's all true!
paul22b | Jul 23, 2010, 11:16 AM EDT
that picture is hilarious! Sniffing her forehead usually works for me on a first date with a women of any ethnicity.
Sweeneyastray | Jul 23, 2010, 10:58 AM EDT
Good. Now how about some advice for us older gents wanting to woo the Irish Ladies?
irishfez | Jul 23, 2010, 10:01 AM EDT
This is BRILLIANT and entertaining