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Irish experts believe the Internet is breaking up marriages

Too much web use can be destroying relationships



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In recent years, people’s ability to communicate has drastically changed and has been made easy, yet our in-person communication is suffering. We are easily connected to one another throughout the entire day but could our quickly reachable ways be making us too connected to each other that we are losing touch?

The Catholic marriage care service has announced that internet misuse was the fastest growing area of concern in wedlock. National director Ruth Barror said text messaging or spending time on the internet is detrimental to any relationship, reported the Irish Times.

Constant checking of a mobile device during a night out, at a dinner table or simply during day-to-day conversation can often cause people to drift away from each other. The number of couples reported to have been affected by their Internet usage went up by 20 percent last year and by 125 percent over the last three years.

“It can be a distraction from a relationship. It’s so easy to spend hours on the internet doing other things instead of being in the relationship with your partner," Barror said.

“Texting is also emerging as an issue, with people receiving texts and one partner wondering what the text is and the other not saying.”

There is so much to be lost from text messages or communication via the web. There is no actual contact or use of charm, and the tone of the written message can often be misconstrued, leading to a misunderstanding between two people.

A record 43,627 hours of marriage counseling was provided to 6,145 couples last year by Accord, which tried to warn men and women to invest as much time in their relationships as they do in their home, job or hobbies.

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Instead of chatting with friends on Facebook, e-mailing, gambling or visiting porn sites, a couple should shut off their electronic devices and spend one-on-one time with their significant other to strengthen their bond outside of the realm of technology.

Stress, a breakdown in communication, difficulties with intimacy and financial problems continue to be at the top of the list of couple issues, the Catholic marriage care service said.


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Mama: Really glad to hear it. Keep it to yourself,though, 'cos there is a certain very confused party who hasn't quite got the lie of the land yet and Cursplutter and myself - and all men of goodwill and with a sense of the Flann O'Brien about them, are now known as 'thesegotia' to Firewall any virus intent on spoiling our enjoyment; like this 'Tumbleweed wan' who seems to think all the male commenters here are the same person! I am not worried about you not divorcing Cursplutter as I know if he ever got a sniff of it he would fall into a faint off St Patricks Bridge and you would soon turn to the Best Man and have a great time knocking on the Towngate!
I wouldnt divorce sirpeter, but Towngate can be me eh bestest friend, but don't let on to Sir that I said that.
Creaky.I can barely hear or see your comment so that's good.You were bleedin' well within your roights like if she wouldn't take the UJB's off!No jury in the land would convict ya like.
Cursplutter, yeh 'ave me 'bleedin' banged to roights' 'ere, maoite! ~ But actually; we fell out because she wouldn't take the UJB's off! As for the head, she was always very fond of that and gave it to me just before she left. The greyhounds didn't want it, so the pig took care of it. The pig eats everything and is yer only man to destroy the evidence! (On your advice; I've typed this on tip-toe swearing a blindfold so no-one can hear or see it!) Slainte!
The person my now long-time ex was having an affair with 25 years ago divorced her husband for being on the computer, so this isn't a new thing. I think it might have been one of the first though.
Bleedin'Hell!! Creaky don't type that so loud.That body they found was more recent then they thought.It was the "God save the Queen" tattooed across her arse was the giveaway.It's amazing what a woman will do to keep a man happy.You went to far this time Creaky just because she wouldn't ware those Union Jack bloomers.For God sake man get rid of the head they know it's missing.Roight.
Very hurtful of you to bring her up as I miss her so much and am heartbroken since she left me. For your information; she was displaying her devotion to me when we discovered we were short of a cabbage for the dinner. She said she'd run to the next cottage and wouldn't be long as she knew a shortcut across the Portlaoise bog. I told her not to go as it was raining ~ but she took an old leather bag to cover her head. Well, she never came back, but I managed without her as I had a few extra spuds put by in a dark cupboard. She's been missing for a little while now, so if you hear any news, me old segotia, I know I can rely on you to pass it on to me.Like.
I agree that mobile phones are the new curse on humanity.A really handy tool and it has it's place.But it's gone to far.There are times one does not want to be disturbed.Like when I'm about to have a bit of fun with Creakygate.Hmmmm I'll have to email Creaky's comment below to Mrs Creaky at willheeverdie@eircom.net.That should put an end to his internetting for a while ;))
These 'machines' are surely 'messin' with our minds'. Not surprising Stress is No.1. That would be the stress of looking across the room at the lump you landed yourself with when the internet etc., is constantly reminding you how much better off you could be with someone else!!!
 




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