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Dad who killed his two little girls described as ‘a good man’

Cork mother mourns two daughters killed by her husband


The Butler family home in Ballycotton
The Butler family home in Ballycotton

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The heartbroken mother of two young Cork girls killed by their father, who later committed suicide, has described her husband as a ‘good man’ but admitted she will never understand why he did it.

Una Butler’s daughters Zoe (6) and Ella (2) were found dead in their pyjamas, in front of a television showing cartoons at the family home in Ballybraher, County Cork, last November.

Their bodies were discovered a short time after their father John (41) died when he crashed his fuel filled car into an embankment near the family home.

Mum Una attended the inquest at Cork Coroners Court when she delivered a heart wrenching victim impact statement.

“For reasons that I’ll never understand, John took the lives of our precious daughters Zoe and Ella,” said Una.

“At this time of unspeakable anguish in my life, it is very difficult for me to make sense of the events that occurred.

“It would never have occurred to me that John was capable of acting out in the manner in which he did.

“Living with someone with mental illness is extremely difficult. Whereas issues such as patient confidentiality are important, I feel spouses and partners should be involved with their treatment and that the first concern should be the welfare of children.”

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John’s sister Catherine Butler said: “John was down on himself” around the time of the incidents. A number of other witnesses at the inquest made similar observations.”

The Court heard that John Butler lost his job as a crane driver the year before the deaths and had been treated for depression as an outpatient up to three months before the tragedy.

Mum Una added: “It is so sad that my beautiful girls have been taken from me.

“John was a good person and he loved Zoe and Ella but I am now only left with the memories of our beautiful daughters Zoe and Ella who loved life and brought so much joy.

“They are with me forever and are keeping me strong.”

Neighbors and relatives feared for the safety of the children as soon as they heard of the crash that killed their father and made their way to the house.

They had to break into the locked house when the horrific discovery was made.

“Ella was lying in the middle of the floor in her jammies,” said the girls’ childminder Anne O’Riordain. “And Zoe was on the couch, turned towards the wall.”

The jury returned a verdict that Zoe had died by asphyxiation due to manual strangulation ‘by a known person’.

It also ruled that Ella had died by asphyxiation due to smothering ‘by a known person’ and that John Butler died as a result of  ‘inhalation of smoke and fire gases, and burns’ which were self-inflicted.
 


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Very sad and pointing fingers of blame does no good at this point in time.my heart goes out to the family ,the heartbroken mother who will no doubt take much of the blame on her shoulders.Many people share the blame for this tragedy.Obviously,the father was deeply disturbed and how his wife,family, and friends could not intervene is a puzzle to me.The survivors will bear the burden of this tragedy for a very long time.Depression and mental illness can be treated if the people closest to the person intervene. Apparently this was not done and the victims are the innocent children.Shame on all who did nothing to stop this tragedy!
How sad the people don't see the devastating effects of mental illness until it's too late. People knew this man was depressed, had a history of depression (and why had he stopped treatment?), and yet they didn't fear for the children until after the suicide? WTF - if others know there is a problem in the family, they should be closely watching! Where was the mother? Where were the caregivers? Why was the father alone with the girls? Sigh. How awful for the family and community. My prayers and heart go out to them all.
There are no words. :(
"If this was the mother, she would be demonised from the altar and in the media". Portia, what you say is flat out wrong. There have been several cases in Ireland over the past few years in which women have murdered their children. In all cases the murderesses got very sympathetic treatment from the media, and not a word of censure from the Church. Irish readers may be able to provide more detail.
How can a murderer be a good man? He was a selfish man who murdered innocent children and has now created lifelong suffering for their mother and family.Why is it that males are excused in such cases. If this was the mother, she would be demonised from the altar and in the media. As the family courts preach - a mother is never good enough, but a father is always good enough. The old Catholic indoctrination is alive and well and to be seen in every aspect of irish culture. We have to have a mass clean out of these ancient views.
"Neighbors and relatives feared for the safety of the children as soon as they heard of the crash that killed their father and made their way to the house." Why then was he allowed unsupervised time with these children? So much for child protection.
There's nothing "good" about the murder of 2 little girls, no matter what the circumstances. I feel very sorry for Una Butler who has to forever suffer the loss of her children due to the cruel, self-centered actions of her mentally ill husband.
It's difficult enough to understand the suicidal mind, but even more so when the person bent on taking their own life must take innocents with them. How incredibly strong, though, Una Butler must be to hold up under such enormous, emotional upheaval and grief.
"A good man"? This reminds me of a piece of craziness I witnessed when I was in Ireland a few years back. Some guy in Wexford murdered his two babies, and his wife, and then committed suicide. And about 6 priests concelebrated his funeral mass, and spoke about what a loss he was to the community! I've seen the rot in the Irish Church for many years, and this was one more example of the combination of infantile stupidity and utter moral blindness.
 




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