“I travelled to England to have an abortion” - Irish woman reveals her very tough ordeal
Now an emigrant, she recounts her fear and loneliness and utter ignorance of procedure
A 30-year-old Irish woman writes about her personal experience of making the tough decision to travel to England for an abortion. She first wrote about it on Broadsheet.ie.
“I am a 30-year-old Irish woman and two and a half years ago I travelled to England to have an abortion.
My ex-boyfriend and I had been together seven years when it happened. We hadn’t been stupid, just very unlucky.We were both from a small village. A couple, most of the neighbours had written us off for marriage, and a happy ever after.
Both of us had been to university, together in Dublin, and found good jobs almost immediately afterwards. For a while it looked like we were destined for great things. However, after the economic crash, we found ourselves unemployed and living at home.
I had a much more staunch Catholic upbringing than him…His parents were the local “hippies”. Though I consider myself intelligent, well versed, and liberal, I have certain fundamentals ingrained in me, since I was a child…The nuns will do that to you. So, when I found out I was pregnant, there was a certain responsibility that fell on my shoulders.
I have been pro choice since I was old enough to think properly (16), but I felt that we were in a loving relationship and owed it to the child to keep it…He was of another train of thought. With a cold stoicism, I never knew he had, he explained to me that it was a financial burden that in reality we could not take on. So we went for “a little break” and “had it seen to”.
In England I mentally couldn’t get around the idea of having a physical abortion so I took the tablets that induce a miscarriage. It was difficult and painful, but, I was fine. The problems only began when we got home. Firstly, the depression was unexpected and extensive. I came home stigmatized. There was no one to talk to, I had no idea where I could get counselling. I had never felt so alone in my life.
I was bottling my emotions inside while putting on a brave face and acting like nothing had happened. However, I’ve seen the posters that say ‘abortion shatters her life’ and I would like to state that this is not true, though having one is most definitely an unforgettable event in a woman’s life.
It’s a hard decision for anyone to make. As your body returns to a pre-pregnant state, your hormones are everywhere and it is paramount, that the woman has someone who is trained to help her deal with the aftermath from this decision.
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