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Sinead O’Connor twitters she wants to die, and needs help

Says she would welcome a visit from social services



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Following a series of comments she made on Twitter claiming she wanted to die, Sinead O’Connor revealed in an interview with the Irish Mail that she was having so much difficulty coping with one of her children that she would welcome a visit from social services if they called.

The singer, who has been diagnosed as a manic-depressive with bi-polar disorder, said she was only using Twitter to express her emotions.

‘I would never act on those feelings,’ she said. ‘A lot of people have suicidal thoughts and you should never be ashamed to say that is how you are feeling. That was how I was feeling at the time that I wrote on Twitter and now I am dealing with my feelings. But I would never ever act on those feelings. By saying you feel the way you do it’s a way of getting rid of the feelings.’

‘When I posted on Twitter it was like emotional diarrhoea, I was thinking out loud and it was a great blessing that I could express those thoughts.’

O’Connor currently lives in Bray, Co. Wicklow, with her husband, Steve and her three youngest children. (Her oldest son, Jake, 23, lives in London.) She said she is desperate for help with her six-year-old son, Shane, to whom she gave birth after an affair with musician and producer Donal Lunny.

When asked if she was worried her comments might attract the attention of social workers, she said: ‘Any experiences I have ever had with social services is they’re very helpful. They’re in the business of supporting parents and therefore kids. So they aren’t people to fear.

‘So I wouldn’t mind at all if they came around. Maybe they’d have some advice. If they could at least post some, I’d be grateful.’

Although she had attempted suicide by overdose a decade ago, at the age of 33, she said she would never act on her suicidal feelings now because it would hurt her family.

‘For me, suicide is one of the most selfish acts a person can do. You may as well murder your whole family,’ she said.

She recalled the pain the failed attempt caused her father and sister.

‘It was so selfish to put them through that,’ she said.

She said she believed that expressing suicidal thoughts should not be shameful. And people should share their feelings of depression.

‘People don’t let others know how they are feeling as they think they will be perceived as being mad. People don’t like to be thought of as anything other than normal.’

She said her desperate thoughts last week were the result of guilt that she drove her son’s father Lunny away by revealing their affair to the media when he was still married. She attributed her son Shane’s behavior to his father’s absence.


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Yes, she did just get re-married. That's another major adjustment her son has had to go through. Poor little guy, but children are very resilient. I hope the whole family will help each other. It's very tough on children when parents are suffering illnesses, whether they are physiological or psychological. I hate to see or hear of anyone suffering. Stay in the moment. Accept what is. Then you will be in a position to take action to change it.
sirpeter..you must have been reading my mind.
I thought she was married or had another boyfriend around.
It sounds like Sinead's son is also expressing his feelings of stress. Think of it that way and don't make it personal. Sinead feels the effects because she is the caregiver parent, or the safe parent, who the child feels they can act out in front of. He trusts that she won't leave him. Therefore his mother is like a safety release valve for him. Just love him. He's obviously in need of it. I raised a son as a single parent. It was extremely difficult, as I had an ex-husband who was more interested in revenge against me for separating from him than he was in caring for or supporting his son. My son is amazing today! A strong and loving father and husband.
Sinead is a brave and open woman. I admire her and want her to know that Jane and I were kept sane by a supportive parents group that nutured us through the struggles of parenthood. Look to your peers.
Guess they have a name for everything nowadays to explain anybody's bad behavior.The only thing she can do is sing..Everybody else she comes into contact with,suffers because of her. She has spent her whole life seeking attention at the expense of others. Get help if you must O'Connor,nobody needs to know..But you couldn't keep it to yourself could you.You have to tell the world and your innocent six year old child. Go on you silly woman express your suicidal thoughts ..Pour your suicidal thoughts into your child's mind..Take his innocent's and childhood and give him fear..So he ends up like you. You are right about one thing, you are selfish,I have read and heard your crap over the years and you have alot to be guilty about. You kill three of your babies and then make money by writing a song about it. Do you think everyone wants to know about your emotional diarrhoea. Personally i just think you are an evil bit*h with an addiction for attention at anybody's cost.
I think that it's very sad. She is a brilliant talent despite her past behaviour, Her diagnosis certainly explains a lot. I hope that she gets medical attention and the proper medication.
A biological dad is just that! We males have a way of tossing off small children, being indifferent to their needs, and surely not expressing our love or support for them. Donal does great music,,,,,,,,,,,but......... Sinead can't make him be a caring dad, nor can Shane.
Pugsmom: It isn't uncommon to have difficulty with children, and I admire her for admitting it. It doesn't mean we are "dominated" by our kids, but that they're having problems and we aren't sure how to help them. My eldest child (a teen now), suffers from depression and ADHD - I'm very involved in his treatment and there are still times when I feel "at the end of my rope" with regard to how to help him. It's very hard to watch your child suffer - it doesn't mean they are managing us or controlling us as parents in any way. You are too judgemental in your comment!
Sinead a Bi-Po...? Who would have thunk!
Ms. O'Connor is on the only "sane" path. When you have troubles, you should turn to those around you for help. That the Mail covered it and that we are discussing it shows that even total strangers care about her troubles and pray for a satisfactory solution for all involved. Insanity would have been NOT asking for help by speaking about her frustration and how it was upsetting her. Ms. O'Connor has always been an important voice in Ireland and in the world. I hope she continues to participate in the future.
Get back on your meds & STAY ON THEM get your Irish Up and keep plugging foreward Girl,
I think Sinead was very courages to open up about her illness, and honest enough to say she was having trouble with her son. She should ask for help though, it is there. If more people were able to open up and talk about feeling suicidal, it would help them, but again some people have to change their thinking about suicide. There was a time when if someone commited suicide, they were not given a mass or allowed to be buried in " the holy ground"
She was tacky to have outed the relationship with the married guy (but then again, he was immature to carry on while married so he brings it on himself). Still no excuse to punish his son by not visiting the child. The guy sounds like a bum all around. And she sounds whacky as usual.
I read this in the Daily Mail yesterday and was blown away at the huge amount of readers who rightly praised her courageousness in admitting this difficulty to cope. So many people suffer depression in silence and go on to harm themselves and their children because of lack of support and empathy.




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