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Confessions of an Irish bartender working in New York City

Despite lots of expererience tricks of the trade much different in the good old USA


SEAN BROSNAN shares his insights into why bar-tending in NYC is do different to his experiences in Ireland
SEAN BROSNAN shares his insights into why bar-tending in NYC is do different to his experiences in Ireland
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Back when I was in college I worked in a big three-star hotel in Meath as a bartender, and on my first day of orientation the owner told me about the “secret” motto.

“We’re a three-star with five-star service so make sure you always smile,” she said without a smile.

That was the end of the talk about service. I was shown how to pour a pint properly, how to make a drink and how to serve food. That’s all I needed to know for the two years I worked there. That sufficed. Good enough.

The hotel had about six bars – a lounge, a restaurant, a lobby, a function room, a late bar and a nightclub. In one 12-hour shift I could be swept from one to the other, all with different types of customers.

I could go from serving hot ports in the lounge to an elderly lady, with gentle background music playing, to throwing out pints at a roaring wedding in the function room and then on to the drunken vodka-fuelled depravities of a nightclub, all in the same hour, and nothing would change in my demeanour.

I got the same money regardless. Why would I change?

Working in a bar in America shocked me. You have to learn quickly, and you have to adapt. Your demeanour changes with every customer, let alone every bar. You can go from talking sports and cursing with your typical, young American man to watching your language and reminiscing about the good times with your typical, elderly Irish woman.

In Ireland, you’re a faceless machine in a bar. Put in €5 and get your drink.

But in America you’re the face of the bar, the way actors are the face of a new Broadway show. People go to see you. And you can never disappoint them.

One thing that struck me about bars over here is the amount of people who drink on their own. They expect the bartender to be an instant best friend, someone to introduce them to other friends.

“Oh, you’re in advertising? Go talk to Liz over there, she’s also in advertising!,” and just like that a new friendship is made through the medium of you.

In Ireland, people who come into bars on their own are ostracized and marginalized. “What the hell is that weirdo at in here on his own?”

Such overt friendliness does not come naturally to most people. There’s a reason why budding actors and actresses make the best bartenders.

Being behind the bar becomes a stage, a stage they feel natural on. The lights come on, the curtain drops, the smiles go up.

The smiles go up because they have to go up. It all has to look effortless, even to you.
Bartenders over here are a little like hamsters running on a wheel, unaware that it all stops moving when you stop running.


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Playing your role well and the tips should flow is always a good incentive. lol. Great article.
I agree with brianmack and SingleDonald.After 15yrs on the slats I can be very critical of such articles, not this time.
I liked this article! I like to tell all young guys that they should always expect to be turned down, if they ask a female bartender out. These ladies develop a sense of insecurity, over the fact that they are the center of male attention. For the guys tending bar, it's different. THEY, being the "stars", will often successfully ask out female customers. Also, those same girl bartenders will often go to other bars and try to romance the guy bartenders! It's too bad that women, unlike men, let the circumstances of the acquaintanship determine whether or not to go out with someone. One other thing. We should always tip male and female bartenders equally. The girl behind the bar will still not go out with the guy who overtips. Also, the guy behind the bar, if single, needs the money to pay for dates.
its like this you worked in 3 star hotel in meath!!come on buddy enough said,1st off all Irish people don't tip in bars in Ireland and they also look at bar people as dirt there never happy always want people to bent over backwards for them while they look down there noses at the bar staff!i'v managed bar's in Ireland and all over the world Irish bar people are the best in the world.if the Irish tipped and were more polite to the bar staff I know for defo they would get a smile!who want's to be treated like you know what, and get paid the lowest wage and be barked at.this guy has already forgot where he come's from sad to see!!
There goes STEVENSTAR off his meds and YELLING about Americans again.
As a bartender in the Rockaway's during the late sixties, and being only 18 at the time, I have to say this is the best most informative piece I have read in many a time. It's always showtime and if you're good, and I paid for private college, a new car and several trips to Europe, it's like Broadway without the nonsense. Great, great and totally true article.
Such rubbish. I hope that donkey has to come home, to Ireland, and look for a job. The best place for him is The Bog-cleaning it!!
This bartender does not seem to enjoy his job. It is just that--a j-o-b. And his mantra 'joke' would be insulting to the average American regulars at any bar. I think the Irish bars are his fave. Aer Lingus calling...
Good article - gives some real insight. In Ireland many bar tenders act like they really don't want to be there - as for a smile and a friendly joke - forget it!! Saying that, there are some great bars/publicans in Ireland and plenty not so friendly also in America.
Fascinating story! People skills are the most important skills you can have, no matter what your employment. Sean has great writing skills, as well.
Fantastic article, I was also a barman in Ireland for many years, then many more years as bartender in the USA, Can totally relate to everything you wrote. Well Done!
HOW COME ALL THE IRISH BORN PEOPLE WHO WORK IN AMERICA THE MEN ARE ALWAYS STEREOTYPED AS BARMEN OR ON BUILDING SITES AND THE WOMEN WAITRESSES.. DO ANY IRISH CITIZENS WHO MOVE TO AMERICA NOT DO ANY OTHER SORTS OF JOBS.. I HAVE MANY RELATIVES IN LONDON WORKING IN ASSET MANAGEMENT AND BANKING ANOTHER WORKS AS A DOCTOR.. I HAVE ANOTHER RELATIVE IN AUSTRALIA WHO WORKS AS A NURSE.. I WISH AMERICANS WOULDNT STEREOTYPE IRISH BORN CITIZENS AND WRITE SOME MORE INTERESTING ARTICLES THEN THIS..
Great article; rings true to life. Wish IC would publish more like this. No liberal claptrap either! Nice.
Imagine my shock: this fella can string two sentences together and, too, also make sense! Very unlike some of the articles written by some of youse liberal omadhauns. Of course, I knew one can't get through any article in IC without at least one glaring proofreading or factual error, but this time I was amazed to catch only one: "SEAN BROSNAN shares his insights into why bar-tending in NYC is do different to his experiences in Ireland." "do". Is that different no or so? I get it from the context, but photo caption makes me jump for it.
 




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